I just finished reading the WT Media release....

by VioletAnai 6 Replies latest jw friends

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  VioletAnai

  While most of it boils my blood....I do agree that parents have to take a greater responsibility and view EVERYONE as a potential monster to their child...it's the only way to protect them short of supergluing their arse to yer hip!

  Because pedophiles hide so well in society and the warning signs can be a little cloudy....it's better to be safe than sorry.

  Parents need to be alert to the people in the community, the people they associate with the most...be it religion, school, neighbours, the sitter....a parent can NOT afford to be lack in any area of their childs life...even their extra-ciricular activities opens them up to dangers beyond belief!

  Parents be viligent and if anything should happen to your child despite your hardest efforts...remember...put your feelings aside (your self-loathing etc and the 'what ifs'), and nurture your child to the full extent....even if it is painful for you.

  A woman I once knew refused to support her child because she couldn't emotionally face the consequences....only focusing on her own pain and not factoring in what is going thru her childs mind and heart as he slowly died inside. She was too self-involved to see it!

  I pray that NEVER happens to a child again!
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  Frenchy

  Is this on their website??
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  Cygnus

  I didn't see the media release but I just viewed the two videos they have on the jw-media.org website. All I can say is EL OH EL. Those bound volumes must be 25 years old.
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  dungbeetle

  That deals with parents and children, Violet...

  now what about the MOLESTERS? Molesters need to be dealt with.

  I'll tell you about what boils my blood...that the JW's allow society to decide what their child's value is.

  I'm talking about the fact that elders will report a molester in their midst in a 'reporting' state (because 'worldly' people want children protected) but not report them in a non-reporting state. Why don't JW's report child molesters in ALL fifty states, aren't their children all comparably valuable?

  Congregations and children in reporting states get more PROTECTION from the elders than the congregations and children in a non-reporting state and I want to know why the Watchtower lets worldly people decide how much a JW child is worth?

  Tough questions...

  And don't give me the nonsense about confidentiality because that only covers the abuser/perpetrator and Watchtower specifically states that 'they will not report an abuser' in a non-reporting state PERIOD. They make no differentiation as to whether the knowledge was obtained through the clergy-penitent relationship or not---THEY JUST WILL NOT DO IT.

  And not only that, I have heard of no cases where Watchtower sanctioned an individual who was legally obligated to report a molestation and did not do it. They don't even to bother and say that they will (big telling omission there, you think?)Maybe the De'Haenes case, but that seems to be becasue she did not report to the ELDERS..not to the authorities. Biiiig difference.

  God is not a respecter of persons. Or is He?

  Oh by the way, your signature was fabulous and I stole it and its the best thing you've done on this forum in my opinion.

  UADNA-US (Unseen Apostate Directorate of North America-United States)

  
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  VioletAnai

  Dung:

  This is one area where I tend to agree with you all...as my sister and I suffered at a monsters hands too!

  But some responsibility has to fall back on parents.

  Molesters are great blenders remember...they don't have 'PEDOPHILE' tattooed on their heads...so parents need to be awake and on the watch!

  I hate the two witness policy and I am struggling very much with it. But I have prayed for help and am trying to leave it in God's hands to deal with it....I can't do much now anyways seeing as my grandmother told me his identity AFTER he died!!!!!

  When I helped my older sister raise her two children, because of my past, I viewed everyone I met as a potential molester and the kids were guarded in the loving and safe environment we tried to make for them. I am sad to say that I think my youngest nephew was interferred with after a weekend away with his great-grandparents - the great grandfather having alzhiemers and roving hands. He just didn't come back to same.

  So my only solution is to guard your children with your all...as ANYONE has the potential...not just old men either....children can be molesters too...
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  myself

  I know of one family case possibly two in which the spouse should be equally held as guilty because of knowing about it and turning the other way instead of doing anything about it. I would certainly have been breaking the door down if a man had my child locked behind a door with my daughter screaming (on several occasions). Another case of Dubdum control, that it even allows abuse? The daughter and some of the sons who were also abused in turn allowed the same monster to be alone with their own children and the allowing spouse
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  deddaisy

  so if a child happens to have parents that don't "super-glue" this child to their hip, then the child is just S-O-L if he is molested......how sad for the child when an organization that is "directed by GOD" holds no more hope than some people have sense...