It has come to our attention... JW Child Molester

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  • i8emallup
    i8emallup

    Front page of Asbury Park Press Tuesday, May 14.

    http://www.app.com/

    Molestation case leads to church fight

    Published in the Asbury Park Press 5/14/02
    By JASON METHOD
    STAFF WRITER
    A Belmar couple say they face excommunication from a local Jehovah's Witnesses congregation for publicly complaining about how child sexual abuse cases are handled within the church.

    Corinne Holloway (center) believes the Jehovah's Witnesses are wrong for holding a disciplinary hearing against her parents, Barbara and Carl Pandelo.
    Carl and Barbara Pandelo, who have criticized the church in published reports for allowing their daughter's molester -- her grandfather -- back into membership, said they are awaiting a decision on excommunication from the Jehovah's Witnesses of Bradley Beach.

    "They're defaming our name," said Barbara Pandelo, 53. "They make it sound like we did something wrong."

    A letter from the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society of New York, the denomination's legal corporation, informed the Pandelos they were to appear May 6 at the local Kingdom Hall for a church judicial hearing on charges of apostasy, or abandonment of faith. The couple delivered letters of protest but didn't stay for the hearing.

    The letter did not say why the charges were being brought. "The judicial committee would like to try and help Mr. and Mrs. Pandelo if they have sincere doubts," the letter said.

    Leaders at the local church could not be reached for comment.

    The Pandelos say they and two others who are also upset by handling of molestation cases -- William H. Bowen of Kentucky and Barbara Anderson of Tennessee -- were each given similar letters by their local congregations after they granted interviews to an NBC-TV news magazine show.

    "Headquarters wants everyone to believe it's a coincidence, that people are being brought in for being sinful," said Carl Pandelo, 51, a wholesale health food salesman. "I have a hard time believing that."

    A Jehovah's Witnesses national spokesman, David Semonian, cited confidentiality rules and said the church could not discuss the Pandelos' case. "The proceedings may focus on sins unrelated to any public comments on sexual abuse," he said.

    Semonian said the church does not have specific rules against talking to the media, but churches could take action against those who disrupt the unity of the church.

    The Pandelos say their daughter, Corinne, was molested by her grandfather, a Jehovah's Witnesses elder in Passaic County, from the time she was a toddler until age 12 when, in 1988, she reported the assaults to her parents.

    According to The Associated Press, the grandfather, Clement Pandelo of Paramus, pleaded guilty to two counts of endangering the welfare of a child and one count of criminal sexual conduct. Court documents reveal Clement Pandelo admitted to having fondled girls for 40 years.

    Clement Pandelo was placed on five years' probation in the plea agreement. He could not be reached for comment. The Belmar Pandelos said they agreed to the deal because they didn't want their daughter to have to go through a trial, and because of pressure from the church.

    Barbara Pandelo said the couple sued Clement Pandelo and won a multimillion-dollar judgment.

    The Pandelos said they became angry at the Jehovah's Witnesses church when, during the civil trial, the elders of the Passaic County church declined to testify on their behalf about what they knew of the offenses.

    "We witnessed elders covering up," Carl Pandelo said. "It was such a broken trust. I could not bring myself to go back in there. I could not step foot into a Kingdom Hall."

    Clement Pandelo was excommunicated from the church, but he was later allowed to return. Semonian confirmed that he is a member of the Hawthorne congregation.

    Semonian said he did not know about the Pandelo case. He said anyone convicted of child molestation cannot hold a position of authority in the church and cannot perform church work alone.

    The Pandelos said they do not attend a church of any denomination at all now and are disenchanted with organized religion.

    Corinne Pandelo Holloway, now 25, lives in Spring Lake Heights and works at the Atlantic Club in Wall. She said she has been attending therapy for years.

    She said she is also disenchanted with the church over the way it has handled the situation.

    "It's a really sad situation, and heartbreaking," she said. "My parents aren't bad people. All they've really done is try to pro-tect me."

  • avengers
    avengers

    It was Holy Spirit!!

  • flower
    flower

    Wow I never realized this story was unfolding right nearby me. Just a couple of towns over. I should go protest or something.

    flower

  • Leander
    Leander
    Semonian said the church does not have specific rules against talking to the media, but churches could take action against those who disrupt the unity of the church.


    It is just me or is the statement basically saying the unity of the church supercedes everything else even the safety of children

  • Guest 77
    Guest 77

    Paragraph five of the news report says, "The judicial committee would like to try and 'help' Mr. and Mrs. Pandelo if they have sincere doubts,"

    Let me tell first hand that this is first hand bull-crap. HELP? yes, just as they 'helped' me out of the organization. The Pandelo have no doubts that their child was molested!

    I personally have a two and half page letter that I sent to an elder requesting 'help.' This letter contained the word help '22' times and I still ended up getting expelled!

    I have also other letters to the branch and headquarters requesting help. Yes, they 'helped' me all right. My letters are power packed and when anyone of these friends have been abuse and accused by the org. for any wrong doing such as speaking up I'll be glad to send them copies of my letters.

    If they want to play verbal gymnastics include me in.

    Guest 77

  • ashitaka
    ashitaka

    'The judicial committee would like to try and help'

    help them out the door, that is.....ugh

    ashi

  • outnfree
    outnfree

    "It is just me or is the statement basically saying the unity of the church supercedes everything else even the safety of children" -- Leander

    That is EXACTLY what it is saying. That is EXACTLY WHY the Pandelos, Mrs. Anderson and Mr. Bowen were brought up on charges of "apostasy" or "causing divisions" at the insistence of the Watchtower heirarchy in Brooklyn!

    It is the reason the hard-hearted, stubborn-minded, old men on the Governing Body decline to even consider that their policy on handling child abuse (sexual or other) inside the "Christian Congregation of Jehovah's Witnesses" is flawed despite inside knowledge of the scope of the problem. The Governing Body and others KNOW

    a) there is a problem within the organization,

    b) they have published articles talking about how important it is for a traumatized victim to be able to talk about the abuse,

    c) they know that morally it is unquestionably the high ground to immediately inform law enforcement (even in non-reporting states or countries) of allegations of abuse, and

    d) they know that the elders are NOT trained, except spiritually, to help the congregants.

    Getting Support
    If you are a victim of childhood sexual abuse, do not ride out the storm of returning memories by yourself. It helps to talk out your feelings. (Compare Job 10:1; 32:20) Some who are extremely distressed may decide to seek the help of a qualified physician, counselor, or mental-health professional. In any case, a trusted friend, a marriage mate, family members, or Christian overseers who will listen with empathy and respect can also be valuable allies. -- Awake! 10/8/91
    The salient points are that victims are to be treated with "empathy and respect" and that "Christian overseers" are to be "allies." Too often, the elders are instead adversaries because they are too worried about protecting the congregation's "good name." Too often the elders ask degrading questions of the victims instead of treating them "with respect." Too often, the victim is made to feel like they are the 'rats' for bringing the problem to light instead of being treated "with empathy" and thanks for having the courage to come forward so that the molestor's supply of victims will dry up! TOO OFTEN, WHEN THE ABUSE IS EXPOSED, NOTHING IS REPORTED, THE MOLESTOR DOES NOT CONFESS, AND THE VICTIM IS VICTIMIZED AGAIN!!!!

    These are the things that happen IN PRACTICE. They are a far cry from the ideal promoted in the Watchtower's magazines! How many times have we heard that a Witness is NOT just supposed to 'Talk the talk' but must 'Walk the walk?'

    WHY is it wrong for members of Jehovah's Witnesses to demand the same from their elders, their traveling overseers, their organizational hierarchy?

    The same Awake! issue quoted above clearly states:

    "if the abuse is exposed and a child receives loving adult support, damage can often be minimalized. However, many victims suffer deep emotional wounds."

    If, by their own words, victims suffer deep emotional wounds sometimes even AFTER exposing the abuser and receiving loving support, whatever does the Organization think happens if the child's testimony is discounted, his/her abuser walks free, and the family must muzzle (not be allowed to talk about the trauma?!) its experience and its concern for the other congregation members?
    Can we say FURTHER deep emotional wounds???

    When both JR Brown and David Semonian each spout what must be the official Watchtower stand "The proceedings may focus on sins unrelated to any public comments on sexual abuse," aren't THEY and the organization guilty of slander, or at least innuendo? When they have a release from the parties concerned that they may release any and all confidential information relating to the charges against them, why are THEY the ones citing "confidentiality rules" and declining to "discuss the Pandelos' case"?

    WHY? Because the unity of the church does supercede "even the safety of children" -- Jehovah's Witness children and the children in the community at large.

    Please continue to help to get the word out.

    outnfree

  • Soledad
    Soledad

    That was excellent. It would make a great letter to an editor. I am so glad you found that quote from an Awake magazine. Using their own literature to expose their lies and hypocrisy!

  • flower
    flower

    Ashi, your emails closed. youre in the area..coming to the bbq?

  • Pureheart
    Pureheart

    The WTS are used to dealing with people that they have under their control. They have for decades hushed people under their control with scare tactics. They have always ended on top of all problems because of the iron fisted domination.
    They are now dealing with people that they have lost control of. They are backed in a corner and they are losing the fight. They have to fight their way out even though they wish that it would go away. They do not know how to contend with this kind of situation. They will not be able to use the confidential scapegoat this time. They have to tell the accused the reason for actions against them. In turn those charges can be used against "them" if they are inaccurate. They are in a lose lose situation.
    All Praise Go To God!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Pureheart

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