I know a girl who left the JWs about 10 years ago, she was not disfellowshipped and this caused a bit of consternation in my JW community as other people who felt forced to shun their family thought it unfair. Some of the elders reacted to this by attempting to arrange a JC, but the girl's father, also an elder, got very angry and put a stop to it. He has a fiery temper and the elders felt it best not to push him.
Meanwhile this girl's family have always treated her as if she's never left, she moved to London and the family visits her on holiday weekends, her brothers would make us other JWs visit her socially when we went to London for holidays, I was fine with this, never complained as I thought she was great fun.
A few years ago however, she got married to a nonJW, the family were excited and ready for the wedding but the other jealous JWs complained to the CO and he banned this family from the wedding, telling the father he would be removed as an elder and the sons as MSs if any attended. There were tears and pain, they complained about how it would make JWs look to the worldly guests as she had to explain why her parents weren't there. The CO did not back down, they did not go to the wedding. They apologised to the poor girl, and put the blame solely on the cruel CO. Aside from this, however, they treated her as normal. They will be staying in her house during the Convention weekend in London.
This is, of course, all right and good. And yet, this same father will sit on other JCs and disfellowship young people for the same things he fought tooth and nail to stop his daughter being df'ed for. I'm not df'ed either, my family will not stay at my house in London during the convention because it will stumble people. The main culprits are this girl's very brothers! They've literally campaigned for me to be cut off, spreading outright lies about me and threatened to have marked anyone, including my own brother, who sees me.
I just don't get it. People who fought so hard to maintain contact with their family and complained whenever anyone intervened are the same people who have treated me with more anger and vitriol for leaving then anyone else!
How do you live with that kind of inconsistency. How can you not see it? Can someone help me out here because it's really bugging me! I left a year ago, they should be over it!