Ostracism Hurts: The Psychological Costs of Ignoring or Excluding Others

by JHK 6 Replies latest watchtower scandals

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  JHK

  http://www.psycholawlogy.com/2013/05/14/hurting-others-hurts-psychological-costs-of-ignoring-or-excluding-others/
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  losingit

  Marked
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  AnnOMaly

  Good article. That the shunner also suffers psychological harm doesn't surprise me. I always felt conflicted and my stomach would knot up when I tried to do the 'right' thing and ignore a DFed person. It's far less stressful to just be friendly ... or to at least show common civility and courtesy.
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  Mickey mouse

  Thanks very interesting.
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  cult classic

  good read.
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  Oubliette

  Fantastic article! Thanks for sharing.

  I especially appreciated these points:

  Ostracism undermines autonomy because we do not usually choose to harm others. Ostracism also undermines relatedness because it prevents us from connecting with others.

  Cult leaders WANT to undermine autonomy. They also want to find ways to sever any tie that might cause someone to show loyalty to anyone other than themselves.

  This shows why WT leadership will NEVER end shunning. The payoff to their narcissistic supply is too great. From their point of view, it's the ideal arrangment.
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  naazira

  Thanks