Looking for courage careerwise - venting!

by Billygoat 7 Replies latest jw friends

  • Billygoat
    Billygoat

    I'm getting ready to vent, so please bear with me. I am hoping y'all can give me some solid advice or if nothing else, tell me you love me and wish me the best.

    I hate to do this during such a tough economic slow down, but beginning today, I'm looking for a new job. I've about had it where I'm at. Great pay, great benefits, great company, but the local politics are more than I can handle. My partner and my manager are two of the most obnoxious, unethical, selfish, backstabbers I've ever run into. I don't like them, nor do I trust them. They both have terrible reputations in my company, even though they both think they have it made. (Little do they know our senior management is tailing every move they make and every word they say. I know because our VP has spoken to me personally about it.)

    I've talked to my manager's manager, that manager's manager, our VP of Operations and HR. Everyone's telling me to "sit tight" because they know I'm a good employee and to just ride out the issues with the local team. I've been at this company for 17 months and the issues have been here since day one. I finally brought the issues to the attention of upper management last July. They actually were already aware of the issues, but nobody had really complained about them, so nothing was done. It's going on almost a year since I brought the issues to the attention of upper management and still nothing has changed. It's too the point that I dread coming into work - I don't even like my responsibilities anymore. (All of which I'm pretty good at - I've just lost the passion with the bull**** going on.) I lay in bed WAY past time to get up, wondering what believable excuse can I come up with to NOT go in. I come up with nothing AND feel guilty about feeling so de-motivated, that I go ahead and get up anyway.

    I work for a unionized company, which is pretty cool. It protects the rights of employees. I do feel very secure of being treated fairly by the company in general - good for me. The only thing is that the same union that protects employees, also protects the BAD employees - good for people like my unethical partner and manager. I know this is the reason upper management is taking so long resolving the situation. They need documentation, documention, documentation because we work for a union. I've been told by HR AND upper management, they are documenting both my partner and manager so "this will be a slow recovery". I respect and understand the upper management's viewpoint and diligence, but today I've come close to my breaking point. No specific situation triggered it, but I just had an epiphany: This life is too short to stay at a job that isn't personally fulfilling to me.

    I can't transfer into another position without moving to another city. (Not an option at this point in my life!) I have sales experience, corporate training experience, and administrative experience. I'm great at creating rapport and relationships, public speaking, and have strong organizational and sales skills. If anyone knows of a good open position in the Dallas/Plano/Richardson area, please let me know. I'm officially out on the prowl. I'm looking at it as: it's my company's loss, not mine.

    So where do I go? I have no idea where to begin, outside of Monster and Flipdog and all the other job search engines. Today I've discovered there are tons of jobs out there like mine. Many of them pay better than what I'm getting paid for. Many of them have better benefits. Many of them are with good, reputable companies. But here is my dilemma: I want to do something that moves me. I want to do something that I'm passionate about. I want to work for a company and managers that inspires me. Doing what I'm doing doesn't fit any of those descriptions.

    I'm seriously thinking about going back to school. To do what? Well, here are a few thoughts:

    Children: I've always wanted to be a teacher. I'm great with kids. They inspire me. They keep me grounded. They teach me many Life lessons without realizing it. Although I don't have the proper education to be a teacher, I have a lot of Life experience that will benefit children. Perhaps I can go back and get my degree? I'll have to go back to waiting tables and living a life of ramen noodles in order to do that. Can I start off a new marriage with such a big life change? That's scary! Knowing that my career decision will now affect Neil - not just myself.

    Art: Specifically, photography. I appreciate wonderful art! I appreciate capturing those "moments" we see everyday and making them stand still. I love looking at a beautiful portrait and feeling that feeling of completeness; of understanding what the artist saw and feeling what that artist felt when they clicked that shutter. I have no idea how to use a camera (unless it's a dummy automatic thingy) so where does that leave me?

    I'm kind of "thinking out loud" here, so I appreciate your patience. If anyone has some inspiring advice or wisdom, PLEASE share! It's taking everything I've got to not walk out of this place without giving notice. Thanks all!

  • Outaservice
    Outaservice

    I suppose 'Pioneering' is out of the question??

    Outaservice

    PS Hi Larc

  • lisaBObeesa
    lisaBObeesa

    Children: I've always wanted to be a teacher. I'm great with kids. They inspire me. They keep me grounded. They teach me many Life lessons without realizing it. Although I don't have the proper education to be a teacher, I have a lot of Life experience that will benefit children. Perhaps I can go back and get my degree? I'll have to go back to waiting tables and living a life of ramen noodles in order to do that. Can I start off a new marriage with such a big life change?

    Billygoat,

    I am back at school now so that I can be a teacher! I quit my yucky, not fun, great pay, great medical, job and got a job as an instructional aide in a high school and I LOVE IT. You might want to try it yourself instead of waiting tables. I'm 33, and I have only about a years worth of classes done, but I will graduate one day! But while I wait for that day, I have a job I love.

    Good luck!

    -LisaBObeesa

  • peaceloveharmony
    peaceloveharmony

    ((((andi))))

    go for it hun! life is too short to put up with crappy job situations. i think it will all come together for you. you would be a great teacher! whatever you decide to do, i know you will be great at it.

    love ya!

    love harmony

  • Imbue
    Imbue

    Andi...How about an Education degree with a minor in photography. You maybe surprised that many universities have Education curriculum on weekends, evenings and many courses online. YOU have to fulfill your dreams because nobody else can do it for you!

    Edited by - imbue on 12 June 2002 10:20:36

  • Billygoat
    Billygoat

    Francois,

    Given the current atmosphere involving the EEOC and the ADA, it may very well be that your higher ups are carefully documenting the behaviors and performance of the two people you mention.

    That is exactly what my upper management is telling me. It is no secret in our company that the two VPs that I've spoken with (they approached ME btw) do NOT like my manager or partner. (Although my manager and partner THINK they're best buds with them. Haha!)

    Both my manager and partner are very smart, cunning, and unethical. (Those are the nice terms. I prefer to call them snake and weasel. LOL!) The company is VERY concerned about a "retaliation" lawsuit on one of their parts. They are the "go for the jugular" type! I've talked to several people in our office (we share an office with a sister company) about my predecessors. They left partly because nothing was happening when THEY complained about the issues.

    I know the stress level would drastically cut down if those two characters were gone. But do I want to wait another year for it to happen? I wish the answer to that question was yes, but *sigh* I just can't do it. They are the only two I work closely with. My partner and I are the only two in our company in this city. My boss visits once a week from a neighboring city. I have other team members, but they are in other cities as well. Most of the team members see the issues I have and have complained just as much as I have. I think we're all just tired of complaining (and documenting ourselves!) and want the issue fixed.

    I know for right now I need to just stick it out. At least until I find another job. The ol' resume is standing at attention and ready to be sent out today. I just know the stress level right now is really taking it's toll. With planning a wedding and preparing for an out of the country church mission trip on the horizon I'm strapped for peaceful moments in my life. LOL! For instance, this morning I wake up to a panic attack (my fourth one in the last two weeks) at the idea of going to work. When it affects me this stressfully, I know it's time to move on. Like I said in an earlier post, I've lost the passion for my actual responsibilities, so even if the issue is resolved, who's to say I'm going to feel that much better anyway? *shrugging*

    Thanks for the input peeps! I appreciate it. That's why I love y'all. You have so much experience to draw from!

  • Sam Beli
    Sam Beli

    Dear Billygoat,

    Early on you said a lot of good things about your job. I gather that without the two jerks you speak of your job is pretty good. Excellent situations are difficult to find. I speak from a position of having been in management for many years.

    Let me tell you one "fact." There are almost always one or two persons in each work situation that we would all like to do without. I remember my first management job: there was one lady that seemed to be drag on the entire group. She was older and I longed for the day she retired. Eventually she did retire and I went "whew!" You know what? Soon there was another "trouble-maker" to replace her! There almost always is a replacement for the group anchor (read jerk).

    My point? Im sure you can see that I am predicting that if you change jobs you will in time (hopefully later rather than sooner) encounter another jerk or two.

    Before giving up your current seniority and great benefits, Id have another talk with senior management and tell them frankly that you are stressed to the max and that you are thinking of resigning over this issue. If they value your work this might push them to make the move that you desire. I know it is a long shot, but there is a chance that they will appreciate you candidness. They may just need some pressure (excuse) to move on these guys. Perhaps they have to justify firing them to their bosses. HR types are often very conservative, hate to take chances and end up in litigation. For HR managers, their performance is sometimes based on staying out of legal trouble, but your courage may help give them courage to act. It all, of course, depends on how much you can trust the guys at the top.

    My 2 cents.

    Sam Beli

  • Billygoat
    Billygoat

    Thanks Francois,

    I will definitely take your suggestion and make a phone call or two. As a matter of fact, the VP of my company will be in town next week. He's one of the ones I've talked to in the past. Perhaps I can bend his ear over a cocktail? Just thinking out loud here...

    Don't worry I'm not looking before I leap. I've truly had it to the point where I would LOVE to walk out and not look back, but my practical side (and my stack of monthly bills) prevent me from riding off into the sunset quite yet.

    As I said in an email to a friend this morning, since the epiphany yesterday I just have an overwhelming sense of peace about leaving. It's just very strange. My partner isn't getting on my nerves today and I just know something is out there that is suited JUST for me. Although I would love to have an answer right now, I'm at peace just knowing this won't go on forever.

    As for my industry, it's kind of hard to describe, but it's not telecom. I work in the Dallas/Fort Worth metro area, which has a lot of telecom, but for a major metro area it's pretty diverse in terms of industries. I'm an account manager for my company. I don't cold call, but I just make sure my current clients are happy with us. I'm very good at it as my strength is relationship building. Especially in today's climate, my clients need the comfort of a familiar face that's taking care of their best interests. The products my clients purchase from us speak for themselves and are pretty easy to sell, so my job is not real difficult. I've just realized however good I become at it, it's still not meant for me in the long run. I just don't know what is. As I've told Neil before: I'm still trying to figure out what to be when I grow up.

    Andi

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