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BecKBenji

Hey. I am looking for online friends.

From my name you know I love Beck and my name is Ben, Benny, Benji whatever just not benjamin. My mom calls me that all the time. She doesn't get it that I hate that name. So here's the thing. My parents are raggin on me all the time about my music. What's up with that?

Its not like I am going to go kill pople when I listen to the heavier stuff. I even wear headphones so they don't have to here it but that no good nuff for them. This aft my mom was going through my CDs she took 6 of them and said some crap about being inappropriate. Anyone else have to deal with type of crap? I don't do drugs I go to their stupid meetings why can't I listen to the music I want.

Seven

Welcome to the board B2 Music. I take it you are still in school? Why not try and sit down with your Mom and attempt to have a discussion about what cds she thinks you should listen to. I know, what planet am I from, eh? Well try and reach a compromise. If all else fails...don't leave them laying around. If they get confiscated it's radio or nothing. I had to deal with the sort of "crap" you describe about 10 years ago. This is a right of passage. There are others here far wiser than myself that can offer you better advice. Again, welcome.

Seven

logical

Hello

My mom calls me that all the time. She doesn't get it that I hate that name.

She gave you that name, so put up with it.

I even wear headphones so they don't have to here it but that no good nuff for them. This aft my mom was going through my CDs she took 6 of them and said some crap about being inappropriate.

Your parents are only doing what they think is best for you. Music DOES influence, as do films. Its quite obvious the spirit of rebellion in your music has rubbed off on you. I think its for the best they forbid you to listen to the music you do. You will become a better person for it.

waiting

Hey B2,

Welcome. I'm probably old enough to be your parents - so a word to the wise - in or out of the organization - it's our job to rag our kids.

I've got three grown and still try to rag on occasion. The difference is - now they just ignore me. Just wait, you'll be old enough to ignore them someday. Give you something to look forward to, eh?

Nice to meet you.

waiting

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ben, nice to meet you. i was raised a witness and my parents were strict, but loving, and they tried to keep my best interests in front of them. if your parents fit into that cattegory, try to talk with them and listen to them as best you can. for now, they do have authority over you and when you become an adult, you will be able to make your own decisions as one. i did and it has worked out pretty well. it's normal to disagree with one's parents just as much as it is normal to disagree with one's children. i hope you can get along okay. logical- can ben be spared some of your negativity?

BecKBenji

Seven - Thanks for the advise. I will do a better job hiding them. god you are gorgeous.

Logical - I had enough of your asshole jerkoff comments in the chat room. When I want the opinion of a homicidial maniac I'll get back to you, until then F#%$ off. Go stalk someone else.
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Waiting - I wish my mom was as cool. I just want them off my back. When I go to Univeristy I'll be rid of them.

logical

Benji - I hope your parents turn on your PC and look in the cache and see what a foul abusive rebellious ungrateful person you are. Maybe they will then be forced into teaching you some manners.

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Prisca

Hey Ben,

Sorry to hear about the probs with your Mum over your music. She may have a point about some of the stuff (sorry!) but while you're living under her roof you'll have to put up with it. At least you wear headphones, I think that's being considerate. Once you go to college you'll have more say over your own life. As waiting said, something to look forward to.

Welcome to the DB. We're all ages here, and feel free to make a comment anytime.

RedhorseWoman

Welcome Ben. I'm sure your parents have your best interests at heart. Perhaps, as Seven suggested, you can work out a compromise. When my daughter was a teenager, I expressed my concerns about certain types of music to her, and she did understand where I was coming from. On the other hand, I tried not to interfere too much as long as the music wasn't totally offensive. We worked it out. Now she has developed better taste in music....thank god!

thinkers wife

Hi Ben,
And welcome. It is tough growing up I know. My parents are witnesses and they were very strict. Just a suggestion, remember they do love you! And they are doing what they think is right and trying to help you.
Try to be honest with them. But be polite about it. I wasn't always honest and am now paying the price for that. And above all love them back. You will be glad you did.
TW

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