by orangefatcat 7 Replies latest jw friends
Well known columnist advisor to many the world over passed away today at age 83, two weeks short of her birthday on July 4th . What do you think the best advise she ever gave over the years that was helpful to you or some one you know?
Her twin sister Pauline is Dear Abby. I have always thought that these two sisters had very interesting things to say about everyday life.
I am sorry to hear that! I haven't read the paper yet today..
I am a Great Grandma so her column and I go way back!
The one thing I noticed in the last year or so is that she changed her mind a lot. It seems if enough readers wrote in and complained about somehing she said..she would change it.She never used to do that.
But a lot of wisdom came out of those columns! I have some posted on my refrigerator!
Sorry to see her go!
Golden Girl
Well known columnist advisor to many the world over passed away today at age 83, two weeks short of her birthday on July 4th . What do you think the best advise she ever gave over the years that was helpful to you or some one you know?
Her twin sister Pauline is Dear Abby. I have always thought that these two sisters had very interesting things to say about everyday life.
Im sorry to hear that .. feels like a member of the family died .. she was an american Icon is why I guess ... Life is short .. even when you live to 83. :(
~Bugs
I wrote to Dear Abby once...about fifteen years ago. I was married to jw-husband #2 and he had left me, but was writing to and calling me a lot, wanting to come back to me. So, I wrote her and told her how our marriage had been and if she thought I should take him back. It didn't get into the papers, but she wrote me a nice letter, saying that I should NOT. He came back to CA and tried to get back in my bed. But, I listened to the Wise One and just stayed his friend. He married a nice jw woman, had a little girl, heard through the grapevine that they weren't very happy and then he disassociated himself.
Am I glad I listened to Abby? I guess. Since he's been disassociated, I have wanted to talk with him again and encourage him to come here, cause I know what it's like to be out and still believe it's the truth. I will always think of him with love, even though we fought like crazy. It was a passionate relationship and it's better this way.
Edited by - Windchaser on 23 June 2002 5:50:42
Bugs, did you know that facial hair on a woman is a glory to her?
Ann Landers made my grandmother happy with her advice column - back in the 1960s. My grandmother was born in 1887, a deep south racial bigot. How she ever got to like Ann Landers I will never understand. I never cared that much for her or her sister's advice ... the questions from their readers were far more fun.
I'm not sure if it was Ann Landers or Dear Abby, but about two years ago someone wrote to her describing what she and her family went through when leaving their "church" . It was exactly what I was feeling and it really sounded like they had been JW's. The reply was something to the effect of ...when an organization is demanding all of your time, energy and assets that something is definitely wrong and to get out. After reading this letter I knew that I had to break completely free. It confirmed all of my feelings. I do remember that someone posted it on this board.
Ugh!!! I heard last night!!! I feel like a family member died.....
The Ann Landers section is the first page I go to, every morning (call me shallow, hehe). It's always nice to get a glimpse of what other people are going through and realizing you're not alone.
I started reading Ann Landers when I was 8 or 9. My sister would sometimes read the column to me...giggling at the absurdity of the problems and cuddling me in a big quilt. It was one of the rare times we spent together...but in the evening, I always looked forward to her snuggling up to me and talking about what was in the Ann Lander column that day.
When I got a little older, things got worse in my house. My sister married and moved away, my older brother got into a motorcycle gang and started drinking and abusing drugs. My father was a severe alchoholic and our mother beat us regularly (along with mental abuse). I felt as if I was the only person in the world.... then one night I read a letter that could have been from me.... a young girl was going through the same thing and was very depressed. I remember Ann telling her it wasnt her fault, that her parents had their own issues. She also mentioned talking to an adult about it. Although I went to the elders (who did nothing at all), it helped me immensely knowing there was someone out there going through what I did, and would one day be able to get away from it.
I also liked her positive attitude... I remember telling people who complained of bad childhoods that once they were adults, they had the choice of breaking the cycle...or continuing it and being unhappy. I never forgot that.... I always remember that it is my choice to live courageously or curl up and wither away.
She was a fiesty ole woman with alot of heart. I'm going to miss her greatly.
