A bit of a mess

sleepy

Hi,I just came back from visiting some relatives in the South of France yesturday.

It seams though that my wife has got us into a bit of an akward situation.She hasn't told any of her family in France that I no longer believe in the religion of Jehovahs Witnesses.In fact they all think I am a Ministerial servent in the congregation at home.

I don't speak much french, and didn't know untill recently that she hadn't told anyone we don't go to meetings etc.Shes afraid her mum and Grandmother will have a big shock if they find out , or at worse she will disinherited from quite a substantial amount of money.( though I belive it is against french law to do so).

Anyway we when to visit her Grandmother and Uncles family with her mum who are all zealous witnesses and talked about the "truth' alot.My wife just made out thinks were normal.

I was then asked to say the prayer over dinner!What fun I could have had since they don't understand English!

So as an Apostate I said the prayer for them.

What do we do next I wonder?Carry on like this or do I get my wife to tell them?

Opinions please.

Edited by - sleepy on 1 July 2002 4:54:3

refiners fire

Were they all smitten with leprousy whilst eating the food your apostate lips had cursed?

they werent?? Amazing. God mustnt of been watching.

As to the conuundrum.Be selfish, think of all that money, and if you hardly ever see them, let them believe youre still active. if you see them regularly, its a different matter.

rmayer32

So as an Apostate I said the prayer for them

Oh good lord, that is kind of funny. If only they had a clue

Far as what to do about it I agree it is a awkward situation for you and I"m not sure what I would do in your shoes to be completely honest. I guess though since they live in France and all that maybe it is possible to just say nothing as long as possible.

-Rick

Guest 77

My opinion? First of all, they didn't ask, correct? Next, they assumed your still a witness because you prayed over a meal. The issue with you is the 'inheritance' money, can I be correct?

It would be easy to shut up, take the money and run, but we do have a problem. This relative has to 'die' in order for your wife to receive this inheritance money, correct? Now you have another dilemna entering the picture. Your in-laws may out live you so what have YOU gained?

You could play the part of being,".....cautious as serpents and innocent as doves," then you have the scripture that says, "....Make friends for yourselves by means of the unrighteous riches,...," Luke 16:9

Let your conscious be your guide. Things do work out for the best when you speak live by truth/honesty.

Guest 77

Europe

Hi,

I think it's a matter of conscience! You can either stand up for yourself and risk not inheriting anything OR play the role, their role!!!! I would take the first option, but that's very personal.As the other option would give me the feeling that I sell my soul for money!

But you're not in a hurry, are you?

Francois

I'm with refiner's on this. Use theocratic strategy. They don't deserve the truth. You deserve the money. Go for it.

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Beck_Melbourne

I would go along with it for your wife's sake....telling them won't achieve anything except anxiety and fear of being shunned....and we all know how much that sux.

Beck

Dismembered

Sleepy,

Play the stupid game to the end, then take the money and have fun!

My $.02 worth

Incense_and_Peppermints

i guess it just depends on how badly you want the money. personally, it would sicken me to say a prayer, especially out loud, to their so-called god... they could live for a long long time, and you may have to compromise your principles again. ew.

besides, they'll find out. they always do. my niece (24 & jw) was secretly talking to this young man (also jw) without her parents' knowledge. he lives in another state and she told them to expect some long-dostance charges. her dad asked for the area code, then called an overseer in wisconsin and got the scoop on him, saying he was 'spiritually weak' and then they told her not to talk to him anymore. freaky, huh.

Billygoat

I guess I don't see money as the issue. If you're wife didn't have a substantial sum coming to her, would she still be keeping mum about it? I'd imagine she would just to keep the peace. Money or not. If that's the case, just go along with it. No point in disturbing the family peace with "announcing" your situation. I agree honesty in all things is typically the best route, but some things people just do NOT need to know. Perhaps at a more appropropriate time? Just like the bible says (Psalms or Proverbs?) there is a time and a place for everything. Just my thoughts...

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