We were invited over her place for dinner this evening. Got to meet her ex girlfriend. Both are really nice young ladies and I like them both a lot. It's kind of a curious story and I'm so glad I'm no longer Borglike and judgemental. Well not as judgemental.
She broke up with this girlfriend and had her first experience with a man was with my son. She was angry and hurt and wanted to get pregnant so she'd always have someone to love, or something along those lines. She got pregnant and dumped my son fast. So my son and I were out of the babies life before she was even born.
Then she has the baby, and she thinks about her lousy family life as a kid growing up. No love in that house. So she contacts my son and tells him her daughter can't be around too many people that love her. That if he wants to love his daughter then she will allow him that and to please tell your parents the same.
We met soon after and she was so nervous. We quickly became very good friends and on our second visit she told me about her old girlfriend. She was afraid we'd be judgemental and toss her out. Not a chance of that, she had already won our hearts along with her beautiful daughter.
Tonight we found out her mom ( adopted, not birth parents) is an ex-witness too. She's inactive as we are. I wasn't able to discuss that with her but I'm sure the topic will come up one day. I understand she still attends an occasional meeting and assembly but won't return.
My son is around now and sees his daughter. But I'm not so sure they would make a good couple ever. What is funny is I honestly wouldn't care if she met the right woman and stayed with her. It just doesn't have to be a guy. She knows her daughter needs a male influence and Maddie will have that one way or the other. But a few short years ago I would have been pushing her to attend meetings or to study with me. Now I see a bright intelligent young woman with a wonderful future. She is going back to finish college at the age of 28. Her plans are leaning towards being a school teacher so she will have more time around her daughter.
I'll post pics of my sweet grandaughter soon. I have a new computer and I need different scanning software now.