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by Incense_and_Peppermints 6 Replies latest jw friends

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  Incense_and_Peppermints

  Are you "UNDER THE INFLUENCE" of a destructive group or belief system? Find out with this SELF QUIZ:

  Does your group discourage doubts, criticism or ideas that differ from their belief system? Yes____No___ Do you tend to rationalize whatever the group does even when it goes against your sense of right and wrong? Yes___ No___ Do you often feel exhausted from lengthy group activities, meetings and projects? Yes___ No___ Does your group have its own unique words, cliches, slogans, chants, prayers and doctrinal phrases that reinforce the group viewpoint? Yes___ No___ Are doubts viewed as a lack of faith, dedication, commitment or disloyalty? Yes___ No___ Have "your thoughts" become "the enemy?" Yes___ No___ Do you often find yourself doing more and more things in the group or because of group peer pressure that you would not have done on your own? Yes___ No___ Does your group publicly humiliate or criticize members? Yes___ No___ Does your group have a system of punishments and rewards for behavior? Yes___ No___ Group paranoia: Does your group obsessively think other groups or people with different beliefs are out to get them? Yes___ No___ Does the prospect of leaving your group seem scary, difficult? Yes___ No___ Do you feel the need to leave in secret? Yes___ No___ Have you been told something bad might happen if you leave? Yes___ No___ Does your group/belief system think they have/are the only or highest truth, or have the solution for the worlds problems? Yes___ No___ Are your leaders ideas or belief system considered beyond reproach or sacred? Yes___ No___ Do you follow a particular individual or belief system that requires unquestioning obedience and loyalty? Yes___ No___ ) Do members of your group feel specially chosen, superior, exclusive, elite? Yes___ No___ Do you feel the need to save or convert others to your belief system or ideology? Yes___ No___ Is your group secretive to outsiders about its inner workings, teachings, activities or beliefs? Yes___ No___ Does your group equate purity and goodness to being in your group, and impurity or evil to those outside your group? Yes___ No___ Do you place your groups mission or agenda above your own goals and ideals? Do group interests come before your own interest Yes___ No___ Do you find yourself thinking in a we-they, us-versus-them mind set? Yes___ No___ Does your group/system have a clear outside enemy? Yes___ No___ Do you see less and less of your family and friends who do not belong to your group or who do not subscribe to your groups belief system? Yes___ No___ Does your group use frequent public testimonials, confessions, or sharings that reinforce the groups mission or agenda? Yes___ No___ Is communication within, into and out of your group controlled or censored in any manner? Yes___ No___ Does your group criticize, shun, abandon or demean individuals who leave the group? Yes___ No___ Do members seek approval or get permission from group leader(s) for personal life choices? Yes___ No___ Do you feel pressured to attend meetings, events, lectures, seminars? And do you feel guilty if you dont attend? Yes___ No___ Do you feel pressured to give a portion of your income to the group, or spend money on courses, books or special projects? Yes___ No___ Are the groups financial needs more important than your own economic well-being? Yes___ No___ Does your group discriminate against anyone regarding race, gender, belief, or sexual orientation? Yes___ No___ Does your group have a totalitarian structure: a strict, top-down centralized control? Yes___ No___ Do you wonder if you have been in a destructive group? Do you... ...have difficulty forming new friendships and intimate relationships? Yes___ No___ ...have low self-esteem, poor self-image or loss of identity? Yes___ No___ ...have difficulty making simple decisions and choices? Yes___ No___ ...often feel depressed, anxious and nervous? Yes___ No___ ...feel isolated, lonely, guilty, cynical? Yes___ No___ ...feel like you are just now growing up, becoming a mature adult? Yes___ No___ ...feel you have nothing to believe in? Yes___ No___ ...often feel anger and rage towards the group? Yes___ No___

  This quiz has no scientifically predetermined number of "yes" answers to indicate a distructive group. However, answering "yes" to any of the above questions means you may need to examine your group and its influence in your life in those areas.
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  larc

  I used to be a member of an organization where about 80% of the questions were a "yes." The organization was General Motors.
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  Incense_and_Peppermints

  ** you know, now that you mention it.... (good point)
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  Amazing

  Sounds like the Democrats in the way they rationalized Bill Clinton, even though he violated their sense of right and wrong. ... just teasing ... but yes, this is an interesting set of questions ... sounds like someone has been studying "unhealthy groups" to identify some common bahavour. Good work.
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  Incense_and_Peppermints

  *** 'twasn't me. it was some doctor. i got it off a former jehovah's witness website one time, and i saved it. i forgot the url though...
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  refiners fire

  Uniformity of dress and to a degree, thinking, apply at work the same way they apply at the cult. Peer pressure, personal loyalty and fear manipulation apply too, but i think the difference is when a Totalist belief is tied in. The company directors dont tell me what to believe in my own mind, and they dont tell me what TV programs I can watch at 8pm. They dont control my inner core.
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  buffett912

  Wow, good questions.