Dont worry, being wrong is normal.

by sleepy 3 Replies latest jw friends

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  sleepy

  A lot of us here are probably a bit gutted that we got things so wrong, with believing all that witness stuff.It may have humbled us somewhat and made us think more deeply about things before jumping in the deepend.

  But you are not alone in being wrong.In fact having wrong beliefs and ideas on the world and life etc is an entierly normal feature of humanity.Through out history most people have lived their lives in complete or partial ignorance as to the workings of this world, but due to the brains nead to have a structure and pattern to think by, have believed wrong things.The Earth is flat, mice grow from rags, a shock can to a mother causes deformities in babies, amongst countless others.

  Even today in our "enligthened "world there is no concensus among all humanity regarding what is right.There are millions of Catholics, hindus and people of other relgions.There are many theories as to say the workings of the mind or the origin of life.No one knows the answer to every thing.All we can do is try to learn as much as we can , and to be balanced and reasonable about what we believe , chosing maybe to not be so dogmatic on issues that we cant really know the answer to.

  All humans believe wrong thing , sometimes in quite a major way, but we have had the oppurtunity to learn that no matter how strongly we believe something to be true, it may not be.
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  DakotaRed

  Basically, my theological beliefs haven't changed that much. Many I already had before becoming a JW. So, I am not all that bothered to have become enlightened on some theological concerns. However, what I regret and will never be able to recapture is moments of importance in my life that I let go by trying to adhere to Watchtower legalistic doctrine. Foremost in my regrets is not walking my oldest daughter down the aisle at her wedding. Even though we had dicussed it beforehand and have discussed it since my leaving the dubs and, to tell the truth, she understands and harbors no ill will at all, I will forever carry the regret that I let the Watchtower snow me out of one of the most important times of my life. Even though I walked her sister down the aisle a few years later, I will never be able to recapture what I lost that one time.

  To say I kick myself in the a** for that, would be an understatement. Never again will any group or organization control me like that again, never!

  Lew W
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  Francois

  Good points.

  It does seem that when we see, through the Hubble telescope for instance, the majesty of the universe and its incomprehensible beauty, the regularity of the coming and going of the tides and how it sets the pulse of life; observe the wonder of conception and birth; feel the thrill of new love, and a thousand other wonders, it seems that humans would have reactions of utmost humility. We have very much to be humble about. And today's truth may not even be factual tomorrow. I wonder why we're so motivated to be so proud of ourselves.

  Francois
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  musky

  dakota, It seems to me that if your daughter has no bad feelings toward you about what happened, then you must have been , are, a darn good father to her. So many children try to blame there parents for anything bad that happens to them. But yours seem to understand that you did the best you could. don't kick yourself anymore. musky