What a sad little life...........

by LyinEyes 5 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse

  • LyinEyes
    LyinEyes

    I heard this song on the radio yesterday, and everytime I hear it I get goose bumps and cry. I thought I would post it , it seems to be so relevent now because of all the child abuse that is going on in the world right now. There are so many forms of child abuse ranging in different degrees of depravity and cruelty. But in the end it all destorys the child deep within. What can be done to stop this ....... sad, but we can't be behind secret closed doors for all the abused children in the world. I often wonder how God can stand to see this every minute of everyday. I think one of the things we can do , is to make this issue known in any way that we can. Like Bro . Bill Bowen is doing. Even if we can't change what a child has been thru, it would mean the world and their sanity to stand up for them now. They really need to know the world is not all cruel and evil and hopeless. The children need to know that if we could , even thou we had no part in what happened to them , that it breaks our hearts, that we want to make it so much better for them. For the many children and adults who grow up without receiving the help they need once they have been abused, there is a whole life of sadness, and insecurity. Many times this kind of life just leads to more abuse, abuse that is by their own hands, or they allow themselves to be abused by others because they do not know any other way.

    The church should be a safe place to heal and be loved. But in the JW organization, that is not the way it goes. The abused child or adult that was abused as a child, is told to let it go, to not press the matter, it is more important to keep the name of JW free from such filth. The child hangs her head , and realizes that there is no where to go. Not even her parents because they abide by what the elders say. She is alone and that will be the pattern for the rest of her life. No one came to her aid, there is no place safe anymore. She may even lose faith that even God cares. She will see herself as not worthy of being loved and the precious child that she deserves to be. Even if the abuse stops, there is a lifetime of self hatred and self destruction.

    I feel a need to tell these children that it is not their fault and to hold them in my arms. What has been done to them can never be undone, but if we could stand up for them maybe they would see the world is not all evil. Maybe just a little understanding , alot of rage about what happened to them will help them to grow in to adulthood with the knowledge that at least someone cared. If a child had one elder in a JW congregation take their side , it would make a world of difference. I mean really take their side, prosecute the molestor or abuser. But it doesnt seem like this is going to happen since they are expelling all who try to help the children. THere will be no one left to help them. How sad and how wrong is that?

    Anyway, here is the song : By John Michael Montgomery, country artist "The Little Girl"

    Her parents never took the young girl to church, never spoke of his name , never read her His word.

    Two non-believers walking lost in this world took their baby with-in, what a sad little girl.

    Her daddy drank all day and mommy did drugs, never wanted to play, give kisses and hugs.

    She'd watch t.v and sit there on the couch, whie her mom fell asleep, and her daddy went out.

    And the drinking and the fighting,Just got worse every night. behind their couch she's be hiding what a sad little life

    Just like it always does the bad jsut got worse with every slap and every curseword, until her daddy hit a drunk rage, used a gun on her mom andthen took his life.

    And some people from the city, took the girl far away, to a new mom and a new dad, kisses and hugs everyday.

    Her first day of sunday school the teacher walked in , and a small little girl stared at a picture of Him She said I know that man up there on that cross,

    I don't know his name, but I know he got off, cause he was there in my old house , and held me close to his side, as I hide there behind our couch the night that my parents died. ( the end.)

    The point I am trying to make, is in this song, the little girl had Jesus, she had someone hold her. In the congregation the elders are supposed to be directed by Jesus and used by him in a loving manner asHe would. The children who are abused in the JW church , do not have that comfort. The elders are dening the children their God given right to be comforted by their Lord. I am sure they will have alot to answer for someday. Maybe that day will be here soon.

  • detective
    detective

    Not to belittle your point, Lyineyes but I have to comment on that song. I personally find it ridiculous when some "christians" decide to write moralistic songs, plays, poems etc. that openly stereo-type non-christians. Such is the case with that particular song.
    Non-believers= druggie, alcoholic, abusive... essentially all things criminal or devoid of any type of moral character.

    Substitute any ethnic or religious group into this phrase and read the lyrics with that group in mind:

    Two (non-believers) walking lost in this world took their baby with-in, what a sad little girl.

    When you substitute another religious group or ethnic group is sounds downright bigoted...and it is!

    I think your concern for the children who are hurting is far warmer and more loving than a song like this could even be. Probably, because you think with such care in your heart for little ones, it didn't even cross your mind that this song could be pretty offensive to those who are not christian. I believe I understand your personal kindness so I hope I am making myself clear in that I have an issue with the lyrics of this song, but no issue with you or your thoughts.

    I'll close with a poem from a witness on "unbelieving mates". It makes my skin crawl no matter who acts like a bigot (at least the witness threw in HIV to really hit the point home)...

    Poem "He Doesn't Serve God"
    > >
    > > I met him at work one day
    > > On my lunch break, I was about to pray
    > > We talked on and on and oh, he's such a gentleman
    > > I wished that moment would never end
    > >
    > > But then reality brought forth, the end of my lunch hour
    > > As he arose, he stood as strong and tall as a tower
    > > We met again and again; our souls began to cling
    > > I've pondered, "Could this be the real thing?"
    > >
    > > He doesn't smoke, drink or gamble money
    > > He doesn't take drugs and he's no else's honey
    > > Let's face it, he's fine and has a great bod
    > > The truth? Oh well, he doesn't serve Jehovah God
    > > For I know that he will change in time
    > > So that is why I shall make him mine
    > >
    > > My friends tried to warn me. Did I listen? Did I care?
    > > Little did I know, my life would be one of despair
    > > The wedding went fine; the judge married us in fall
    > > You see, I couldn't have my wedding in a Kingdom Hall
    > > My dad? No, he didn't give me away
    > > With the pain in his heart, he didn't have much to say
    > >
    > > Mom, can you hear me? Mom, why do you cry?
    > > Don't worry bout me, we'll do just fine
    > > I got a good man, who has a good job
    > > The only thing is, he doesn't serve God
    > >
    > > Everything went fine, only recently at night
    > > When the meeting times come, we fuss and we fight
    > > "Who is this God, breaking us apart?
    > > Don't go tonight, follow your heart."
    > > So I listen, to keep the peace in my home
    > > But often times, I feel so alone
    > > Guess cause I don't associate much with the friends at all
    > > You see, I stopped going to the Kingdom Hall
    > >
    > > Service? Oh, well that's history
    > > I just decorated my first holiday tree
    > > The holiday celebrations are now a part of my life
    > > I must obey my husband, for I am his wife
    > >
    > > The brothers would call, I wouldn't answer the door
    > > I stopped reading the literature, it got to be a bore
    > > You see, marrying out of the Truth, gets one free
    > > Free from Jehovah's love that I once had within me
    > >
    > > Oh blessed news, a little one to come
    > > I couldn't wait, had to hurry and tell my Hon
    > > He was in a bad mood, just lost his job that day
    > > He told me all this as he struck my face
    > > "I'm sorry, babe. Forgive me this time, please."
    > > I've heard these words more than once you see
    > >
    > > Two jobs I have now, as I support my household
    > > My husband stays home--still out of work--it's getting old
    > > I'm tired a lot lately, and feeling kinda strange
    > > My schedule at both jobs, I've rearranged
    > > The baby is due anytime now
    > > Things will get better some way, some how
    > > For I married a man for better, or worse
    > > One who refuses to put Jehovah first
    > >
    > > The baby came, so little and light
    > > It wasn't crying, something was not right
    > > What could it be, I wondered in bed
    > > Then came the Doctor, he just shook his head
    > > "Mrs. Unbeliever, there's something to confess
    > > You and the baby tested positive to the HIV test"
    > > Oh my!! What a death sentence to hear
    > > That the end of both of our lives is near
    > >
    > > Listen to me, let me tell you to your face
    > > To marry an unbeliever is a total disgrace
    > > Jehovah, a loving father, who cares for his sheep
    > > So he set guidelines for us to hold and to keep
    > > Let me say this, just to set things straight
    > > He'll give you a nice brother, a theocratic mate
    > > Cause there's nothing a worldly man has to offer at all
    > > But unhappiness, sorrow and a serious fall
  • LyinEyes
    LyinEyes

    I wrote that song, out of my own personal experience Detective. I had "believers" as parents and I was abused. So in no way was I being a bigot in saying that only non christains abuse their children. How stupid and shallow is that.

    I posted that song, to express MY OWN personal feelings, I am not even sure I am a beleiver.

    I thought this forum was all about expressing yourself, and if you took me as being a bigot, you have me all wrong. Alot of country music has religious sayings and messages in them, even thou they are not gosspel. I simply heard this song and thought about all the other JW children out there , who have no one to support them. Most of the JW children are believers , waiting for someone to rescue them. Alot of folks on this board where abused as children and may also identify with that song being raised a christian, a JW. At least they thought it was christian.

    I think it was a little harsh to attack what I said, I thought this was a place that we could talk about how we feel, even what we beleive. If I said I was a christain would that be offensive to you? If I said i was an atheist would you consider that offensive? I didnt say that all non christains abuse their kids, it was just a song, a story if you will, and these two parents happened to not be believers, so what... it was just a story.

    I thought I would tell you about my own childhood being a so called beleiver so you can see that just because I post a song, doesnt make be a bigot towards anyone eles..... geessssh.

  • Wolfgirl
    Wolfgirl

    I didn't find it bigoted at all. Everyone has their own personal experiences, and they're all different. No one said all believers are this and all nonbelievers are that.

    My "believing" parents were/are abusive. My "nonbelieving" husband is not and could never be.

  • Cowboy
    Cowboy

    Lyin,that one brings a tear to my eyes every time.I think,if you believe in a higher power of any sort,the significant part is that she wasn't alone in the worst of times.

    Cowboy

  • Witch Child
    Witch Child

    Hmmmmm.....

    I think a point has been missed. As a Pagan I find the horrible stereotypes in the song offensive, but I don't think the person who posted the song believes thoses stereotypes... nor do I think the poster who objected to the song was accusing the song's poster of being a bigot...

    Peace,
    Witch

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