Why Can't You See?

by Wolfgirl 8 Replies latest watchtower child-abuse

  • Wolfgirl
    Wolfgirl

    For my abusive, ignorant mother:

    Why Cant You See?

    Why cant you see

    What youve done to me?

    I know that the first

    Sometimes has it worst

    Because you were too young and dumb

    For the responsibility that was to come

    But as you grew older

    And supposedly wiser

    You still expected me to be perfect

    Whilst my needs you continued to neglect

    You were too lazy to get out of bed

    To make sure your small children were fed

    So you left that job to me

    When I was eight and my sister was three

    You called me a bitch to my face

    When you wanted to put me in my place

    And when you heard my sister and I fight

    You threw things at us with all of your might

    And when you hit me over and over again

    Because I committed what you called a sin

    I was not allowed to raise my arm

    To protect myself from harm

    You said that was the same as hitting you

    And God would give me the punishment I was due

    So I retreated deep into my brain

    To hide myself from the pain

    And when you had another baby

    I thought that just maybe

    Things might begin to change

    Your life you would rearrange

    But no, it was too much to hope

    For you said you couldnt cope

    And when I came home from school every day

    You just couldnt wait to get away

    Each day, my young heart was torn

    As you left me to care for a newborn

    Because you would rather go to the store

    Than see your children any more

    You left me to raise my brother

    And he thought I was his mother

    I took care of my sister too

    It was too much bother for you

    I taught them as much as I could

    And in a way it was good

    For where would they be

    If it werent for me?

    And when you found out the things my father did

    To me, those things that he hid

    You claimed not to have a clue

    And maybe that is true

    But once again you made a choice

    You couldnt hear my little voice

    Crying out in despair

    You acted like you didnt care

    You chose to stick your head in the sand

    And then even began to demand

    That I forgive the man who stole my youth

    When he finally told the truth

    And now you have shunned me

    Because I decided to be free

    On me you place all the blame

    And dont allow anyone to speak my name

    I dont even care anymore

    Because Ive opened a door

    Into a whole new world

    Free from the abuse that you hurled

    Why cant you see

    That Im finally happy?

  • Xandria
    Xandria

    Wolfgirl,

    Wow, that is a heart rendering poem. It hit very close to home with me. My mom would rather wander the streets at times than be with us. An when she was with us, we sometimes wish she wasn't. Because of the rages, when we fought.. she got mad at us. She would always say you should not hit someone smaller than you.. yet she would hit, punch and choke.

    My mom was mentally unstable, and us children begged her to get help. The one time she tried it was used against her by my step father and the cycle continued.

    So much pain and hurt with all this... hugs ((( Wolfgirl ))). You brought me to tears with this one. Memories can be very painful at times .. but it is like cleansing a wound.

    Xandria

  • LuckyLucy
    LuckyLucy

    You just described my Aunt Erma's life....I never got the pleasure of meeting her due to the fact that the pressure was just too much for a 12 year old.She made one descision in her life(at age 12) and that was to take her own life.

    I am so hurt that she did'nt try to "tough it out" easy for me to say.

    I missed out on knowing a giveing and loveing Aunt... It angers me to no end!!

    However..you are a survivor...Im glad you are still here ..to love and give.

    My heart aches for you.

  • Mimilly
    Mimilly

    (((((((((((Wolfgirl)))))))))) Yer a very strong lady. I'm glad you shared that with us. Straight from the heart.

    hugs,

    Mimilly

  • teenyuck
    teenyuck

    {{{{{Wolfgirl}}}}}

    That was heart rendering. I am so sorry you went through so much pain.

    Thank you for sharing your poem.

    Tina

  • scootergirl
    scootergirl

    Hugs to you, wolfgirl, BIG hugs to you!

  • Mulan
    Mulan

    Powerful stuff. Thank you..................hugs and kisses. I wish I had been your mother.

    You can break the pattern..............you probably already have with your siblings. Good for you!!!

  • Wolfgirl
    Wolfgirl

    Wow...sometimes it's surprising how many people have experienced the same things as ourselves. Sometimes the world we live in can be very sad. Your stories help put my life in perspective. My mum is a sad little woman who has deluded herself by living in a fantasy world in her own head. She took out her anger and aggression on us.

    Unfortunately, my siblings don't really see that too much. My sister does a little, but she's so firmly entrenched in the organisation that she'll never say anything. And since they're all such "good" JWs, they don't speak to me anymore. Oh well. Their loss. I'm happy now.

    Hugs to you all...thanks for your support!

    (BTW...for some reason, the punctuation in Word doesn't copy and paste here, so it left out all the apostrophes.)

  • Reborn2002
    Reborn2002

    Wolfgirl-

    Your poem was amazing. You truly possess talent.

    While I was not physically or sexually abused, I still feel as though my childhood was stolen from me because I was not allowed to play with friends or participate in social events like any normal children could.

    I had to spend my time in field service selling magazines or in personal study.

    Even within the JW organization my friendships were limited, as my grandfather was an elder and my mom was a pioneer, I could not go out with anyone who was "bad associations" or "marked."

    I had little to no friends growing up, so in a way I feel abused too.

    Your poem brought a lump into my throat.

    Thank you for sharing it with us.

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