Last night at meeting was the 2nd part to that rather odious KM article on shunning disfellowshipped family members. I guess the Society can't take any chances in light of Dateline, etc.
Well, one of the paragraphs dealt with how you'd handle a disfellowshipped child who lives outside the home. The Society pretty much ordered Witnesses not to take in their children unless they're dying or something, as they would bring in "leaven" into the house. The brother handling the part gave an example of how you should deal with your child.
He said that there was a brother who "extended kindness" to his dissfellowshipped son who had fallen ill with pneumonia. Due to the nature of the illness, naturally the child was bed ridden most of the time and sleeping. However, one day the father came home and noticed that his son "had his feet up watching TV". The father immediately demanded that his son vacate the home in the next couple days, as his son's being up and watching TV was clearly a sign that he had recovered from his pneumonia and he should be on his way out. He didn't want his son to think that "things had changed" and everything was "normal like it was before" just because he had taken him in to recover from an illness. Such a harsh, and possibly falacious reaction (maybe the child was just bored of being in his room all the time) is certainly what you would expect from a "loving arrangement from Jehovah".