My poor mother...HELP!

FiveShadows

i just got off the phone with my mom and ...even though i had trouble with my "native" language...i still got the message to her. Jehovahs Witnesses are bad! (sounds more dramatic in my language) we spent about 40 mins talking on the phone back and forth in the "disfellowshiping" rule. I never yelled or anything..but emphasized a lot of words...and even though she's an unbaptized publisher now...the Witnesses have told her it's okay to have me come over but just to be "cautious" around me. Which to me his a lie ...Who wants to bet me 50 bucks that when she gets baptized i will be banned from my mothers house on account of the Watchtower? She changed the subject a lot ...going to a topic ABOUT jehovah's witnesses BUT did not answer my questions really. At one point she called me a Bafoon (in my language it means: "dumb ass" or "idiot") then 20 seconds later DENIED she ever made such a statement. She's becoming a typical jw and sad to see that. It's not just that, but also i have forgotten a lot of words of my language (Punjabi) and that makes it more difficult to communicate with her...especially since the way i speak English is how she speaks Punjabi and the way she speaks English is the way i speak Punjabi. I need help though...i need people that know someone...or have been kicked out of their parents house on account of disfellowshiping due to the "elders advice" ...i plan on writting her a long letter with these accounts with names and situations as to how or why this happened to them. I hope this will open my mothers eyes to the fact that what the elders have told my mother about whether or not i am permitted in the house is only TEMPORARY. ... So if you are...or know of anyone that this has happened to...please let me know...i need a lot of information...i plan on mailing a 10 page letter explaining why...disfellowshiping within itself is wrong...and also examples of people that were thrown out on account of the elders because of disfellowshiping. Any info would be highly appreciated. If you have had this happen to you and wish to share...i would greatly appreciate it so i can say "i know this person" not "i heard from someone's uncle's, cat's, dog's, hamster's, grandmother's, wife that it happened to the man at the quicky mart" lol anyway thanks~ ~FS

LucidSky

Just my opinion, but I think you're going about this the wrong way. I tried forcing facts and information down my parents throat and it got me no where. There are better ways to convince someone.

Marilyn

I'm disfellowshipped. I have been for 20 yrs. They called me apostate as I stopped believing in God and JWs. My parents were hounded for years not to see me. They've had a terrible time of it - because they refused to shun one of their children.

I am sooooooooo sorry for you. It sounds like your mother is too far gone to respond to anything you write. All you can do is tell your mother how much you love her and hope that what you have between you is strong enough to endure. In many cases it's not. Religious addiction is a terrible thing. It's completely irrational and nonsensicle. I've lived this nightmare all these years and I'm sorry to say there isn't much you can do about it.

If your mother is an intelligent person beg her to do one last thing for you before she allows herself to be enveloped in JW mind control. Ask her to read Crisis of Conscience. If she's not very smart she probably wouldn't get it, but if she has a vaguely inquiring mind it might just do the trick.

Goodluck

Marilyn

Vivamus

Shadow, just my two cents...but I don't think that will work. A letter like that might just push her more into the Borg. My mum is a JW and I just give her drops of info at a time, I make her think for herself with little remarks I make. I used the lates KM of August as well, I just trie to show her how absurd the Borg really is with their rules. It works too.

Just my two cents.

I wish you luck. Hugs, Viv.

Tish

I agree, the more info you try to give her anti JW the more she will be more inclined to think you are an apostate and will probably at least limit or even stop you coming round to see her. The less you say the more they are intrigued!

Grit your teeth and wait for the right time.

Luv

Tish

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hugs,,,,hugs,,,,,and lots more hugs for you....

imanaliento

I agree with the above responses, people in general will do the opposite if overloaded. Maybe asking point blank questions, now and then while she can still think for herself. Has she seen silentlambs.org or any info regarding how the abused are treated?

FiveShadows

i guess you guys are right...my mom doesn't even know how to turn on a computer so no...i'll try to give her COC but...who kows...that might only push her in...might tick my brother off more...but what worse can it do? I appreciate everyone's response..and thank you ~FS

Sentinel

Yep, she is falling for the "ploy". They will tell her anything so she will get baptised. Then ZAP, they will have her.

My heart really does go out to you..........I know what will probably happen to your relationship.....

Be strong. She is responsible for her own actions.

You aren't alone!

((((HUGS))))

Sentinel

plmkrzy

I have to agree. Hug your mom a lot tell her you love her and let the rest go.

Hope things work out or at least run smooth for you.

My poor mother...HELP!

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