It occurred to me over the weekend that my husband and I are in a unique position.
We moved to a different state and congregation a year ago. We made the mistake (at the time we were still trying to be good dubs) of attending the new congregation for a couple of months and sending for our publisher cards. Wish we would have just faded, oh well.
We have become inactive and the new congregation hasn't tried to track us down, I think because we were not there long enough to make friends, however that changed this weekend and sure enough we got a voice mail from an elder who claims we have been assigned to his book study. Damn those publisher card, we are still "on the books".
I have a question to pose to the board. If we get DF'd in this congregation, no one will know in our old congregation, is this correct? And if they don't tell our old hall, the new congregation doesn't know any of our friends or relatives in our old congregation so our old congregation may never find out we are DF'd.
What would you do? If you got DF'd and none of your friends or relatvies knew, would you keep it a secret? Unless of course they asked you out right - I would probably tell. The truth is, if I get DF'd I don't think of it as a significant event in my life. I would just laugh in the elder's face and go on with my life. I wouldn't feel motivated to tell anyone because it holds no power over me. I know that it would be important to several of our friends, they would shun us if they knew. Should I tell them out of respect for their feelings, or just let it go? Truthfully, I have been distancing myself from JW friends anyway just because we don't have anything in common anymore. I realize I am starting over trying to find new friends.
Any thoughts?