I was d-fed in May of 2000 for living with my boyfriend (now fiance). We have a daughter who is 4 months old. My parents both being JW's in fact my dad being PO, will have limited contact with us. My mom came to visit 3 times, once being because I had an operation. My grandmother (not a JW) thinks that I should go back for a while to make everyone happy and to get re-instated and just drift off slowly. With my reinstatment (sp?) they would have no reason to ignore my daughter. They are with holding a trust fund from me until I come back.
Do I go back, get "good standing", take what I can get and then leave again?
I guess it depends on how much you're willing to swallow for the desired results. A question that comes to mind is, do you want your daughter exposed to a family who will tell her Mom and Dad will die if they're not good JWs? She might believe she will die unless you're good little JWs, etc. There's a price for everything we do, so it comes down to what are you willing to pay.
I`ve been here. Some years ago my parents were left some money by another JW. My dad sought advice and was told that it would be improper for him to give me a share all the time that I was in a DF`d "state".
He told me that was the way it was and that I could have a share if I ceased to "turn my back on Jehovah". Yukky words!
I went to 1 meeting (1!) and felt that I was being stifled. I didn`t go again, but I got my share a few months later!
Dear Lolliworm, Why would you want to go back? Just to be in "good standing" with who???? Do you actually care to be in good standing with them? In order to be in good standing again you would have to put up with their (bs) for a good while. Once you get reinstated and you do decide to leave again, they will probably just DF you anyways. Remember, they don't care who they hurt. Why put your life and your daughter's in their hands?
