halloween, the straw breaker

wednesday

My husband and i have just had a big fight about, of all things, Halloween. Our dgt. in law is bringing our cute little grandbabies over to show us their costumes, plus she is taking them to business's to trick or treat. I suggested to my husband that we take a pic and have some candy for them-well the" fhit hit the san. ""So now u want to be catholics-they started halloween-your forcing me to go against my beliefs" I told him i was tired of living like we do. how happy were we as JW's-how happy are we now? Living in this strange middle world is so confusing.

joannadandy

That sucks! Instead of just being able to enjoy cutie little kids in costumes you have to deal with that? I'm so sorry to hear that Wednesday...

wednesday

Jim,

I totatlly incative and my husband attends only occ. But he still beleives it the "truth". and is not going to let us have any fun i guess. The only way i can explain this is by what Gary Bussleman said over on his site, even when he left he still had the jw core personality . It is hard to see that your religion that u believed u so much is not working. I have gotten out on the net and read -but he won't entertain any new ideas.I'm not DA or DF but i'm expecting one of those elder calls in jan-march. I planned on just being real nice and telling them how sick i was-for sure they'll go away.

BTW-he is getting a camera , and he'll by the kids a choc shake(b/c he always does that) but no trick treat candy. I guess i won a little. But he's not happy. Very mad. I know this is not the end-the holiday season is coming up.

bay64me

Sorry about your fight.

I think I know what you mean about this strange middle world. It makes me feel a bit awkward. All this halloween, bondfire night, poppy day, harvest festival and the BIGGY christmas!

I feel unsure to as what to do, as it all seems to be thrust upon me, without me having thought it through.

However, this evening I thought I'd just go with the flow and gave the kids sweets as they knocked on my door. This is my first 'pagan involvement'!

I felt a mixture of rebelliousness, naughtiness and also a sense of taking a step toward normality.

A Paduan

Do you mean how sick you were that you didn't come, or how sick you were when you attended the hall ? I suppose either would make them go away.

wednesday

LOL

i meant i was ill and they should understand that is why i will not be at the meetings. thye'll encourge me and go away. that's my happy thought ,anyway.

ugg

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Shakita

wednesday:

Right now I feel a little sick from all the candy I ate tonight!

Our family has just got done celebrating the first halloween in 25 years! My 10 year old just had a full day of Fun!!!! I feel so good about her being able to have the holiday that my other 3 kids didn't. I still feel guilty about them not getting to celebrate when they were kids. But, we must move on. If we live in the guilt, we remain stagnant.

I still have one daughter who is still in. She is disappointed that we are celebrating the holiday. But what else does she know. We brought her up that way!!!! We love her and her husband and will try to make a middle ground for all of us to be happy.

Try to give your husband some time. It is very hard on them, too, when their secure JW world is turning upside down. I know it is hard not to fight about the many things that the JW's refuse to get involved with. But I think it is important always to keep a line of communication open between yourself and the JW ones you love. Don't let the WTBS win under any circumstances!!!!!!! Give your loved ones the one thing the WTBS can't, real honest to goodness love from family members who will love you regardless. In the end, we hope to help our daughter come to realize what a lie this so-called religion is. I wish you the same with your husband. Good Luck!

Mrs. Shakita

wednesday

Mrs. Shakita,

ty for a lovely post. We talked and he said he was just so confused. I assured him i always love him no matter what. We even got to talking and i told him how when i was a kid, my parents were inactive and they allowed me and my bro to go out trick or treating. Also, we always went to my aunts house at thanksgiving-cheap way to celebrate thanksgiving. And if the truth was known to a lot of people, my husband and i have slways secretly celebrated new years/eve and july 4. What we did not do was ever put up decorations or tell anyowne , so think we even deluded ourselfs that we were not celebrating.

What a strange way to live-half in half out. We can sorto of celebrate some holidays, but make a stink about BD and holloween and xamas. and oh my mothers day-fathers day-evil days. .

Mulan

My parents were baptized when I was 4 1/2. I admit I hated trick or treating. I went with my brother, who was 6 years older, and he would try to ditch me. I was shy and didn't like saying "trick or treat". For years I thought I was supposed to say "trigger treat". I was so happy when I didn't have to go, when I was 5. My brother, who was always rebellious, went anyway, and made his costume with paper bags. He did share his haul.

By the way, he was the first in the family to ditch the "truth". He was a pioneer, and then a very well known elder. Another big scandal. 1978. We didn't speak (except for family emergencies) for 17 years.

halloween, the straw breaker

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