I woke up a couple of weeks ago, thinking that my life would be like any other day. I set up in bed, doing my normal focus into the world of the living and working my way into the normal day's routine. Work was normal, a few things to get done by five and a lot of things to get done by the end of the week. I knew that it was going to be this way, for work has been the same week after week. So on with the day.
I got home that evening to my wife who is expecting and we welcomed each other, and did our best to avoid the talk of work. We set and we ate, and talked about life. So many things to do right now, and yet it seems like we are caught up and feeling all right. I went into the computer to check a few e-mails and get some of the work I do here in my home. Then the phone rings.
Well we do not get a lot of phone calls after eight, so normally if it comes in we think salesperson or wrong number. This time though it was my wife's mother and I could only hear the words in the other room, but I knew something was not right. I walked into the room and I could see my wife was talking on the phone, but her eyes were crying. I knew what ever news was going into her ear, was not something my wife was dealing with easy.
She got off the phone, and then we spoke about what was up. It seems my wife's mom found a lump in her breast, and the test she had done were not coming back good. My wife almost lost her mom once before at a young age to cancer, and she remembers it all like it was yesterday. Of course, when we think of something like that we think "she went through this once, it is not fair that she does it again." My wife always worries about hurting her mother in this new life of ours, and with the love in her heart towards others. I can not blame her for feeling the way she does. The thing is, I always feel sad that no matter what happens in our life with Witness relatives, the religion has to come up. Yet for those in, I have to remember that is all that makes up their life and that they really just do not know what they are saying is offensive. Why do I mention that?
Well even in this illness that my mother-in-law was mentioning, she could not help but say something that was directed at the religion, a unconscious personal attack. Basically, she told my wife how she wished all of her kids served Jehovah. Which of course made my wife sick with sadness, not anger. Sad that her mom revealed that our life truly hurt her, and yet we would never be willing to change it.
Two weeks later and we arrive at today, we get up this morning to a very early phone call from my wife's mother again. The test have come back and the doctor has said she is alright. My wife was all smiles and her mom even apologized to her for the comments she said in the emotion of the moment. My wife is a understanding woman though, and knew her mom was just scared and emotional and still meant nothing but love for her daughter. The day was new, and the prospects of the future were on the horizon.
Sometimes it just pays to remember that when the sun sets in our heart on a emotion of concern, and anger. We should remind ourselves, that the sun also rises on kindness and emotions that give birth to the new day of love in our heart.
My thought
Dragon
The sun also rises
by kenpodragon 5 Replies latest jw friends
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kenpodragon
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Iwasyoungonce
Ken,
I am glad that things turned out good. And, I am sorry for the unfair brown stamps given to your family. Your "thoughts" thus far are my favorite things to read at this site. I hope to one day one be willing to give such uplifting words from the heart. b
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happysunshine
Hang in there pal. I wrestle with that interplay between love and ... I don't know how to say. Words are a cheap tool that doesn't always get the job done. Anyway, hang in there. Say hello to your wife. I'm currently going through some related issues with my father's Parkinson's diagnosis. -J
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Brummie
Trust me to read this thread after posting a vent!
The test have come back and the doctor has said she is alright.
So glad to have read that! had a similar experience with my wife and I felt physically sick for a few days just at the thought! Turned out with an all clear. What a thumping worry though
Glad fer ya
Brummie
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Kenneson
Now there's some good news to brighten my day. Happy to hear all is well.
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Searchin50
Hi Kenpo----- Glad everything turned out ok.
Sorry your wife had to be upset though, sometimes it just pays off
to wait for the and results.
When is your new arrival expected ?
I'm going to be GrandMother again in Feb.
Be sure to keep us informed please,I do enjoy reading your post so much.
Searchin50