When will it rain?

by kenpodragon 8 Replies latest jw friends

  • kenpodragon
    kenpodragon

    This last weekend I was doing some yard work to get the place ready for the winter-time. I was racking up some leaves and getting a little weeding done. All of which left kind of a big mess of dirt on the walk way and the rest of the cement. I was so tired from working on this all day, the last thing I felt like doing at that moment was having to clean up this dirt all over the place. I looked up to the sky and wondered, "when will it rain, and maybe that will wash this all away." I think we all do that in life at times. We get into a mess or a problem and we wish so much that someone would come along and fight the battle for us, or clean things up to the point that life becomes normal again. I can not number how many times since leaving the Witnesses that I would have liked to have stepped out of life for awhile and let someone else clean up the mess or to deal with the things that came up. I am sure we all could think of situations this would apply to, as life throws a few our way at times. It might be the family pressures to come back, or the problems with dealing with fellow work mates who remain Witnesses and are around us. When these first started to happen to my wife and I, we were thinking "oh great, looks like someone wants a little of attention." After all the problem was often something others brought to us, and not problems we brought out on our own. Yet, much like racking the fall-time mess from my yard and making the changes to my life, I realize that we often make a mess while we try to fix another. I realize that in order to get one done, it must at times cause the other. Yet the other is often easier then the original to deal with. We have to sometimes move trash to find more, and in the end the result will be the same. A cleaner yard and a cleaner life, yet all of them will result in a sore back or something else. As long as we did the work ourselves and went after the problem and cleaned up the mess, and did not let the leaves continue to pile for someone else. So when I looked to the sky this last weekend and realized that blue skies do not always bring rain. I realized that the only way to truly get this situation fixed, was to do the work myself and get the dirt off the cement and the yard back to the look I wanted and expected. So much is like this in life, we have the messes and we have the clean-up and we have to remember that no mess really cleans itself up without us. Yet, in all of this. I can not ignore the fact, that my question was answered, "when will it rain?" As it rained yesterday and cleaned the little bits I did not see, or the things I thought would be fine where they lay. Thus rain became like my friends, and showed up to finish the fine details or notice the things I just ran out of energy on. The friend finished up with the little extra support I needed, and maybe didn't even realize was on its way. So the question, "when will it rain?" Perhaps the better question would be, "Should we really look for the rain, or start to learn the true joy of the sunny weather?" My thought Dragon

    Edited by - kenpodragon on 7 November 2002 14:17:50

  • Gopher
    Gopher

    Into each life a little rain MUST fall. That is, unless you brought your umbrella. Then you can forget about it.

    But really we cannot expect good breaks (like the "rain" in your case), we must make them. I believe we have to work hard for each inch or centimeter of tranquillity, joy and accomplishment that occurs in life. If sometimes others cooperate with us and add to those, then that's icing on the cake.

    Gopher of the "hope I don't sound too pessimistic" class

  • BluesBrother
    BluesBrother

    I could never count up the number of times that I wished "It would rain" or that some unexpected event would happen and solve a problem for me.

    I am coming to realise,far too slowly,that you have to make your own rain in this life.

  • kelpie
    kelpie

    My dad used to say, If you want something done, much easier to do it yourself.

    I believe in always looking the positive side in every situation.

  • Sentinel
    Sentinel

    Ken,

    As usual, your thread is an excellent read.

    I suppose we just need to "let go" and try not to "make" things happen. There is such a thing as trying too hard. It took me a long time to learn that lesson, but it's so true. I was so hard on myself, expecting so much from me all the time, that I couldn't even relax. I still felt unworthy and guilty and miserable. So, if there's a task that I really don't want to do, I make a decision. I either get on with it, or I decide to do it "tomorrow". When tomorrow starts catching up with me, then I know that I need to kick myself into gear.

    So glad that I don't have that worry now. It sure makes for a happier life. I try to take things as they come, and like you, accept when it "rains" and when it doesn't. I might complain a bit, but usually rise to the occasion and do what needs to be done. Things usually have a way of working out just about right, don't they?

  • Beck_Melbourne
    Beck_Melbourne

    G'day Dragon

    We need rain Already we have brown/yellow grass...usually it doesn't go yellow until January...but with our water restrictions we can't water our lawn, I'm so glad I didn't pay for instant turf.

    But of course your not talking about rain. There are times when we want someone or something else to tidy up life's little messes...we all go through that from time to time. I'm all for helping other people with their messes...BUT...not if the mess is self inflicted.

    As for my own messes...I learnt a long time ago at the tender age of 16 that there is no one better to rely on then yourself. By doing it yourself YOU set a precedent for every mess that follows...you develop the tools and you school yourself on how to use them...if you see a mess in the horizon, pick up the appropriate tools you need....fix it...and get on with it.

    Don't rely on the rain to make things green...adjust to the yellow grass and learn to live with it until the time comes when you can restore it to green again. Even when it is restored does not mean to say it will never go yellow again. That's life!!

    ~Beck~

  • LB
    LB

    I'm glad that washing my vette brought you a little rain.

    There are time when I work very hard to make it rain. There are times I enjoy the sunshine for what it is. There are times when I just wish for rain and don't have the energy or frame of mind to even think much.

    Right now I'm enjoying a taco for what it is in a motel room, but that's another story in itself.

  • Prisca
    Prisca

    When I read the title to this thread, I thought that maybe you were talking about the same "el Nino" drought conditions we are experiencing here in Australia. I should have known it would be a bit more involved than that, considering the author

    Occassionally we do need some "rain" in our life, just to give us a helping hand. But when it's not forthcoming, or in the quantity that we'd like it to be, then we realise that life doesn't hand us everything on a silver platter - we need to do something ourselves if we want something done.

    Prisca, sitting in 35'C heat with no sign of rain

  • kenpodragon
    kenpodragon
    considering the author .... sitting in 35'C heat with no sign of rain

    Prisca,

    Are you trying to tell me something. Also, I am in the middle of a regular down pour outside with the wind blowing about 50 MPH.

    Take Care

    Dragon

    Edited by - kenpodragon on 7 November 2002 23:42:47

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