Elements of Change

by Sentinel 7 Replies latest jw friends

  • Sentinel
    Sentinel

    Dear Friends,

    Every day of our lives we are affected by our own perceptions of what we were, what we have become, and what we hope to be. I believe that our experiences with the WTBTS have significantly made us each aware of how vital it is to find our joy and happiness and hold onto it like a prized possession.

    I have been finding myself rather annoyed at how materialistic our society is, especially during this season, and I can't seem to find where "christmas" is in all of this. Children grow more spoiled daily. Even needy families give lists of things their children "need", which turns out to be expensive video games that promote killing and violence. Husbands will go broke trying to satisfy wives and children, who "want, want, want", and don't know what it is do really do without. People continue to get "stuff", and are still never satisfied. Budgets are ruined. Credit card debt is high. No one wants to wait for anything anymore. And, when the immediate gratification for a desire achieved is gone, then its on to the next "want". What is going to become of us, if we can't learn from the past, and grow and appreciate the things that cannot be bought with money, things that have never had a price tag, and never will?

    We are such tiny specks on this planet, which is a tiny speck in this galaxy, which is a tiny speck in this universe. Sometimes I wonder if there really is a plan for us at all, or are we just at the mercy of beings that we will not ever be able to see or understand. Will we "tick" our last "tock", and still be empty of any real proof? I'd like to believe that this will not be the case, but I have no real proof to show any of you--only my experiences. Does this mean that the enlightenment I have experienced is just some short circuit in my brain, or a hormonal imbalance?

    I connected with someone from this forum who has sent me a couple emails, and basically said that I am only fooling myself, and that my "dream" is just a dream, and not really any different than the ideas of theories of others who have their own opinions about this and that. Since that message, I have found myself in deep meditation over the matter. This person "suggested" that I might be falling into a trap, designed to keep me away from "the truths of the bible", especially since I have moved away from believing those writings as "the word" of god.

    I suppose it is good to test ourselves, and to step back and see where we are and if this is truly where we want to be. Perhaps that's where I find myself right now, and I need some time to reflect and ponder over my journey so far this year. There have been some major changes in how I perceive my world and what my personal hopes and dreams are, not just for myself, but for all mankind. I suppose in one's journey on the road of life, if we don't stop to "regroup" now and then, and see if we are still on that path we want to be on, or if we need to redirect ourselves a bit.... even with the best of intentions and a good heart, we might find that we have ventured a bit off course.

    My best wishes to everyone for a safe and joyfull holiday season with family and friends.

  • RandomTask
    RandomTask

    Bear in mind also that there are people giving to others things they truly need. There are people buying presents for others who will really appreciate them and are not leading themselves into bankruptcy. Bear in mind that there are many, if not most people who are content with their life and living it day to day. Bear in mind that this whole world really isn't going down the toilet as much as the daily news would like you to believe simply because it sells more papers. Life isn't so bad. It's not perfec either, but then again a perfect life would be boring, at least to me it would be.

    We sometimes get caught up in looking for all the evil in the world that we fail to see the good that surrounds us, or we choose to only see the evil side to something without acknowledging the good. Sure, people are materialistic, but is that anathema to happiness? If someone is overly so, certainly they would face the concequences down the line.

    If you see people in need, then help them. If you see someone lonely, then be their friend. For me, the meaning of life is being contented and grateful for the gift that life is, no matter what good and bad things happen to us in it, I'd rather be alive than dead.

    All I ask of you is to take a moment and reflect on the good that you see around you, ask yourself whats right with the world? If you can't do that, then we might as well all be killed off by the Witness God's Armageddon.

    Edited by - RandomTask on 11 December 2002 20:0:36

  • Undecided
    Undecided

    Hi Sentinel,

    You have a very good view of things, at least in my mind. I have been reviewing my life and the expectancies I have left. Not much at my age. I just hope I don't become a burden on my kids as I fade away. I'm trying to enjoy each day that I have, but I get involved in the problems of my kids emotionally and it sometimes makes me sad. Both of my step-kids are having problems with health and finances and it makes me sad that I can't solve them.

    Christmas doesn't seem like much fun either this year since none of us has any money to buy things and get together. Maybe there will be something to turn things around soon.

    Ken P.

  • GentlyFeral
    GentlyFeral

    All the streets are filled with laughter and light
    And the music of the season
    And the merchants' windows are all bright
    With the faces of the children
    And the families hurrying into their homes
    As the sky darkens and it freezes
    Will be gathering around the hearths and tales
    Giving thanks for God's graces
    And the birth of the rebel Jesus

    Well they call him by 'the Prince of Peace'
    And they call him by 'the Savior'
    And they pray to him upon the seas
    And in every bold endeavor
    As they fill his churches with their pride and gold
    And their faith in him increases
    But they've turned the nature that I worship in
    From a temple to a robber's den
    In the words of the rebel Jesus

    We guard our world with locks and guns
    And we guard our fine possessions
    And once a year when Christmas comes
    We give to our relations
    And perhaps we give a little to the poor
    If the generosity should seize us
    But if any one of us should interfere
    In the business of why they are poor
    They get the same as the rebel Jesus.

    But please forgive me if I seem
    To take the tone of judgement.
    For I've no wish to come between
    This day and your enjoyment.
    In this life of hardship and of earthly toil
    We have need for anything that frees us.
    So I bid you pleasure
    And I bid you cheer
    From a heathen and a pagan
    On the side of the rebel Jesus.

    -- Jackson Browne

  • concerned mama
    concerned mama

    Sentinal,

    Christmas is what you make of it. I have celebrated every Christmas of my life. When I found I was getting stressed and turning into the Grinch, I turned the volume down on Christmas. It is my choice how I choose to handle it. I no longer go nuts baking 30 different fancy cookies no one needs, except the food bank, I bake our 2 family favorites. I see friends, but when it gets too busy, we plan for Janurary or February rather than get so frazzled. That way we can share what we did over Christmas and enjoy each other's company. I entertain, and if I am not Martha Stewart...well, they are there for the company not me showing off how gourmet I can be. Being with my family and close friends is the most important thing.

    In my husband's family, we draw a name and must MAKE the gift, not buy it. Generally it costs less than 30 dollars, but is so full of ingenuity, humor and inventiveness. I have made or received frozen container of home made soup, pizzas, beautiful framed pictures of my family, an incredible mirror in a tiled frame, linen for the table, kneepads for when I garden hand made out of leather, a sweater, spice mixes, calendars custom made with family photos and all the birthdays marked in. Receiving these gifts means more than getting a diamond bracelet. Someone spend their own time and efforts being creative, making something that I will love and quite often have a good laugh about.

    Now....I have to go knit. My homemade gift isn't finished and only 14 more knitting days left, let's see if I don't drop too many more stitches, I will have it done by..............Christmas.

    Don't allow the advertisers and card companies and merchants to tell you how you have to spend Christmas. You have the privilege of making your own Christmas the way you want it to be. Have a joyous, peaceful and Merry Christmas.

  • vanilia
    vanilia

    i agree that its far too commercial. its difficult with children because you always feel so damned guilty over everything ( which is the sign of being a good parent i guess:/) that you want them to have what billy at school has too, specially when you remember you're own green eyed monster when you were a child.

  • Englishman
    Englishman

    Sentinel,

    In M Scott Peck's The road less travelled, Peck speaks of the value of delaying gratification as a means of greater fulfillment in the longer term.

    This is a useful link:http://www.clemmer.net/excerpts/deepening_discipline.shtml

    Englishman

  • Sentinel
    Sentinel

    Thank you, everyone, for your replies. I have taken to heart what each of you have said.

    The Road Less Traveled can be rather lonely sometimes...

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