Best Christmas Ever!!!!!

by Bendrr 8 Replies latest jw friends

  • Bendrr
    Bendrr

    Pics will be up soon, probably this weekend.

    11 people including myself. My older half-brother and his wife and 2 boys. Some very good friends and their 3 kids. My younger brother Matt (the one "trying" to get reinstated). Matt brought his guitar (very high dollar) and his Korg keyboard ($2500) and the moms made sure the kids were careful around them.

    Joel and his family arrived a little early (my older half-brother) while I was still cooking. Tina (s.i.l.) was going nuts just standing there watching me cook so I put her to work on the cheese manicotti and the focaccia bread, both of which turned out stupendously. There was a big platter of cold cuts, Ritz crackers, and raw oysters. Linguine and Fettucini. I cooked the scallops, clam sauce, and shrimp scampi. My 10yo nephew Levi went nuts over the scallops and shrimp scampi. Tina finally barred him from the kitchen cause he was sampling a little too much. Also made a big pot of crawfish, which my youngest nephew Benjamin (5) absolutely loves. And I had bought 2 pounds of prawns, which Joel kept referring to as "them big-ass shrimp". (yeah, he's a redneck all right!)

    While I finished cooking the bread and manicotti, we dived into the gifts. Matt had a blast playing Santa and he really got a kick out of watching how fast the kids tore off the wrapping paper. I've got plenty of pics and we joked that they are "blackmail" pics. When Levi and Benjamin opened their Playstation 2, the joke of the pink Barbie gift wrap went right over their heads. Levi's got a real dry sense of humor. But after it was open, Levi held that box almost the entire time they were here. If he wasn't holding it, it was right by his side.

    Then came dinner and everyone ranted and raved about the food. Which just made me glow with pride at turning out such a good meal. Then Matt hooked up his guitar and keyboard. Played a few songs for us, even sang the vocals on a couple. Matt's one hell of a musician and composer. That's our little family joke. Three brothers, one's a race car driver, ones a musician, and I'm the boring one. Anyway. Then he let the kids take turns sitting in his lap strumming the guitar while he fingered the chords. That suprised me, how good he is with kids and how they took to him so quickly. We never bothered with anything on TV or a movie, it was all family, gifts, talking, singing (someone brought a Karoke machine), and live music. After I'd gotten enough alcohol in me I even took the mic and sang [very off key] a David Allen Coe song while Matt improv'ed the music. One of the ones from his "underground" albums. Best not to mention which one it was, but needless to say everyone was laughing their asses off.

    After everyone left, Matt stayed and we talked for hours. Talked about folks we knew in the dubs. It's amazing how when we grew up together how little we really knew about each other. In fact, there's a couple of girls I chased way back then that he still knows and he promised to tell them I said hi. We talked about him going back. He's not as hard-core about reinstatement as he was a couple of months ago. I unloaded on him in detail about the history of the WT, details about Charles T Russel, Beth Sarim, and the early stuff like Jehovah living in the Pleadies (sp?) and Russel's use of the Great Pyramid to determine the date of 1914. His eyes were big as dinner plates. I told him to go through the KH libraries of old publications and try to find the old old stuff like "Studies in the Scriptures". I also told him about the Nazi letter.

    I asked him "Matt, how do you think the GB arrives at a doctrinal decision?". "Oh they pray and Jehovah reveals it to them, I'm sure it's something pretty supernatural". I told him no, they vote and some decisions pass by only a narrow margin.

    Then I told him about the U.N. membership, prefacing it by asking "what is the U.N.". "Well the wild beast of course". Then I told him about the membership and how it was quietly ended when information became public. I ended it with the recent Pedophile issue.

    Matt left with my copy of Crisis of Conscience and a promise to read it. Last time I offered it, he said "I don't think I should read stuff like that". This time it was "yeah I think I need to check this out".

    Well this is my last day off so I'm going to finish it offline. Laying on the couch watching tv and working on a couple of model cars I bought myself for Xmas.

    This was the best Christmas I've ever had.

    Mike.

    Edited by - bendrr on 26 December 2002 19:18:14

  • Shakita
    Shakita

    Mike:

    Sounds like you had a great Christmas with your family! That's what it is all about, isn't it?!

    Matt left with my copy of Crisis of Conscience and a promise to read it. Last time I offered it, he said "I don't think I should read stuff like that". This time it was "yeah I think I need to check this out".

    Mrs. Shakita

  • riz
    riz

    yay Mike!

    can't wait to see the pictures dinner sounds like it was yummy.

  • Carmel
    Carmel

    Good to hear things went well Mike. You never know when someone will be receptive to the "news about the truth"! :-)

    carmel

  • twinkletoes
    twinkletoes

    We had some friends around on christmas day, we had recently bought Crisis of Conscience for them (they've been JWs for over twenty years), and the first thing his wife said when they arrived was - I've just finished the book, and I feel so happy and relieved, for months | had been thinking that I was being rejected by Jehovah, but now I realise that the Organisation does not have Jehovah's backing. They have decided not to go back - I must say that we were a little apprehensive when we gave them the book, but we are so pleased now.

    I do hope that Matt will see the Org. in its true light.

    Twink

    Edited by - twinkletoes on 26 December 2002 17:59:33

  • Bendrr
    Bendrr

    BTTT

    I'd like to keep this one going for a while and get some input from some of you.

    Matt's at a real crucial point right now. One one hand he wants back in, to be back with our parents and all the old friends we both "lost". On the other hand, his experiences both before and after df'ing have really opened his eyes. He tells me all the time about the rampant hypocrisy, the regulations that border on tyranny (one elder told him his dress shirts were a size too big for him and that was why he couldn't be a Ministerial Servant), the double standards, and when trying to get reinstated he told me about how the committee was trying to make him literally grovel to get back in.

    The biggest thing to him is our parents and wanting to remove that barrier between them. As we talked last night and compared how they treat us both he actually got angry. They've loaned him money, had meals with him, basically kept the same association as always after he was df'd. I told him about the early years after I was df'd. About how they wouldn't let me rent a car when I needed a way to get around. It wasn't even their car. It belonged to our dad's (my stepdad) uncle who was not a dub but his wife was. Uncle Olin would have let me use that car in a heartbeat. But Mom and Dad asked the elders if they could rent me the car and the elders said no. Therefore I couldn't rent the car, which would have been a business arrangement and thus acceptable under the df'ing rules. But a little over a year later when they were going through their bankruptcy (chapter 13, wage earner) and scrounging up money to make the first payment, they without hesitation came to me to ask for a loan. Even going so far as asking me to ask my landlord to allow me to be late on the rent in order to loan them the money. I told him about how Dad was taking our granny Eleanor's welfare and social security checks (granny Eleanor is my stepdad's mom and Matt's grandmother) and depositing them in his personal bank account and letting Granny Eleanor's bills get delinquent. Her gas got cut off more than once, leaving her without heat. She sometimes didn't have food in the house. All of this was perfectly acceptable to the congregation they were attending. Like I said, his eyes were big as dinner plates, I mean he was suprised and outright shocked because he never knew any of this. He was extremely pissed to say the least. I've got a feeling he's going to have some harsh words for mom and dad pretty soon.

    Mike.

  • Bendrr
    Bendrr

    And another thing, before I forget about it. This one's pretty funny.

    One of the elders Matt and I knew, James Kelley. We talked about him. And the other elder Dan Mason. Matt told me "man you got the worst treatment from those two, I just can't believe the stuff they did". I asked Matt, "did James or Dan ever give you a hard time?" Matt kind of got this funny look on his face and said "no, he always left me alone. And that's weird 'cause you know how they are". (meaning they're the type of elders people call "Theocratic Police". In fact one of them had the nickname "The Enforcer")

    At the end of my df'ing kangaroo court trial, I looked Kelley right in the eye and said "If I ever hear of you or Dan Mason going after my brother they way you did me for the last 5 or 6 years, you WILL fu**in regret it. Rest assured I'll be watching"

    Matt just started laughing his ass off, "I wish I could have seen the look on his face" he said." Well that look was one of fear. Terror, really. And Matt told me that of all the elders he'd dealt with, those two left him alone 100%. He said "now I know why" and laughed some more and then said "thanks dude."

    Mike, who just loves to see fear on the face of an elder.

    p.s. Francois, if you're reading this, just imagine if the two of us had been together to fight C.B. Mitchell. By the way, C.B. MITCHELL IS STILL DEAD!!!

  • outnfree
    outnfree

    Mike,

    Your posts are totally heart-warming and encouraging. I'm very glad to hear how wonderful your Christmas was for you! I know you were "hoping hard" for the warm and enjoyable evening, and "working hard" for the perfect dinner! Sounds like a holiday reunion was just what your brothers were longing for as well. Good job!!!!

    out

  • Been there
    Been there

    Mike,

    Three brothers, one's a race car driver, one's a musician and one is a very good cook and entertainer. I'm glad everything turned out so well for you and everyone had a great time. You put your heart and alot of hard work into it. Great job.

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