The man I called Daddy...... old picture

by LyinEyes 7 Replies latest jw friends

  • LyinEyes
    LyinEyes

    I guess you can tell I am a picture posting fool today. And yeah, I am going down memory lane as I go thru this old pictures . I ran across this one, of my dad, he was 18 in 1964. On the back of the pictures is a personal message he wrote to my mom, it reads......."Lura, May God keep and bless you always,,,,,,,,,, Love Always, ID Dec. 5, 1964

    Notice the cross he is wearing he was very much Catholic,,,, I wonder how things would have turned out if they would have stayed in that religion instead of joining the JW's.

    This is the way I remember the man I loved so much at one time, when my dad acted like my dad. He was everything to me as a little girl and I loved him dearly. He taught me to love God , and I remember the very early years he tried to do the right thing with us, even thou it was JW. When I turned 9 things changed alot,,,,,, he got invovled in big business, big power at the Kingdom hall, and started to ignore my mothers problems. I guess looking back I do understand why he was so sick of her drug abuse, but I always wondered if he would have given her just one more chance.

    But I don't want to dwell on those later years, when he became a hard and cold man. I want to look at this picture of a young man who had lots of dreams, and ambition. He loved his family and I do think he loved me when I was little. I know looking back at pictures of him when he was younger I miss that person he was . I wonder if he looks or even has any of my pictures anymore, and looks at them and remembers a daughter who worshipped him so much. I was very much Daddy's girl. I hope beyond hope, that someday we will make peace. But it came down to chosing my own conscience and tell him the truth, that I didnt beleive in JW at the risk of him ,never speaking to me again. I took the risk and I knew how it would be. I havent talk to my dad in going on a year and a half.

    I am bitter at the JW religion for making it easy for him to cast me aside , he was able to use it as an excuse to brush me out of his life and memory for good. I guess I was a painful reminder of a past he doesnt want to surface. I don't know if I cross his mind, but he crosses mine, mostly I am mad and angry, hurt when he does. But I ran across this picture of him and felt a little peace, knowing that I knew him back when he loved his first family. I guess these are the things we hold on to,,,the memories and pictures,, because the void we have with our shunning families and the way they treat us now, just breaks our hearts.

  • bikerchic
    bikerchic

    Oh wow Dede.......what a hunk he is! Reminds me of James Dean. Same era?

    I have some pictures of my Dad that are black and white photos and he is such a hunk I can definately see why my Mom was attracted to him, he was so handsome! Another James Dean type the rebel complete with the cigs rolled up in the arm of his T-shirt. I sorted through some of these pics while I was unpacking after moving in with Craig, they made me cry. My Dad died several years ago, next month on the 4th. I miss him!

    Katie (of the Daddies little girl class too)

  • MegaDude
    MegaDude

    Hey Dee,

    You really can see the resemblance there of your son and your dad.

    If it constantly causes you emotional upset, I recommend cutting those JWs out of your life who shun you and not making any effort to reach out to them. But again this is if it causes you emotional upset. For myself, I found it intensely draining to constantly reach out and be rejected. It was like it was happening for the first time all over again. After a long while, it was taking its toll and I found it easier just to let go. I credit my stubborness for not doing that a long time ago, and I would definitely have been better off. Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want. ;)

    However, if you feel there is a chance, why not drop your dad a card every once in a while, or a letter, or a call. But don't bring up any religious issues. Just give him updates on you and your family's life. Who knows if he might soften and turn around. One lady in Dallas I know did that, and visited with her mother in England for the first time in many years. They had a great visit. Her mother is quite old now and still a loyal JW, but was willing to bend the rules to see her daughter after such a long time. But this Ex JW lady had long ago built herself a good life, is happily married, is close to her children, so she didn't mind reaching out to her folks every once in a while, even if they did shun her.

    I hope it eventually works for you and your dad so you can be reconciled, but however it turns out, you made the best decision in getting out of that religious sink hole.

  • xenawarrior
    xenawarrior

    (((((((((Dede)))))))))))

    Thank you for taking us with you on your journey down memory lane !! I hope that you have lots of good memories to bring out of it with you that you will carry with you on your journey. Thank you for posting all of these pictures- I, for one am enjoying it a great deal !!

    Love ya,

    XW

  • ugg
    ugg

    deeply moving....thank you so much for sharing....

  • Shakita
    Shakita

    Dede:

    I hope that one day your Dad will see what a mistake he is making, and you guys can be united again. Thanks for sharing his pic with us. I love the old black and white pics of long ago. They have so much character. I have some of my dad, and I love going back and looking at them. Memories are all I have now.

    This is a pic of Ashitaka and my Dad when Ashi was little.

    My Dad and I also went through a period when we were not talking due to the JW religion, but we patched things up and went on to have many years together to share till he died a little over a year ago. I hope the same for you and your family before it is too late.

    Take care.

    Mrs. Shakita

  • xenawarrior
    xenawarrior

    Finally got my scanner working:

    Here's one of the only pics I have of my dad. He died when I was 10 years old. He was 33 years old. I remember when I was 33 and thought of that- wow, that's young!!

    Dede- thanks for posting these threads. It prompted me to take a look at old pictures myself !!

    XW

  • LyinEyes
    LyinEyes

    Hugs to you (((((((((((((((XenaW)))))))))))))))))))))) I love to look at the old photos, these black and whites are wonderful. Your dad looks so kind.

    I remember when I turned 35, thinking the same thing about my mom, who died at 35,,,,,,,darn she was so young,,,,,,,,at 18 I didnt realize how young she really was. I am now older than my mom . That is weird to think of, If I ever meet her again in some kind of after life, I will have more earth years on me.

    Thanks for sharing these pics everyone.

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