FEAR OF LEAVING THE J.W.ORGANIZATION

by nightwarrior 4 Replies latest jw experiences

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  nightwarrior

  ive had enough,cant take it anymore,

  Safety in numbers,feel secure,lots of fickle friends,the world is getting worse outside,ime afraid,i dont really agree with the society and its teachings,but what else will i do .where will i go.what will my family say.

  This seems a common thought and leaving people in fear ,Yes i understand what your saying about worshiping the organization ,i realize that man should be worshipping god but where do i go ??? if i left the organization ,i feel secure within the confines of the kingdom hall we have lots of friends & family we have a good life ,although we dont beleive in everything that the organization preach,but if there are any mistakes by them,we all know that we can ( LEAVE IT TO JEHOVAH )And he will sort it out sooner or later just leave it.

  in time it will get sorted, even the problem we have had with paedophile ,dont worry it will get sorted out (WAIT UPON JEHOVAH ) the elders know best my daugter was raped by an elder ,my neice was sexualy abussed by the presiding oveerseer, and tony thomass ran away with someone elses wife,brother smith stole five thousand pounds from a bible study ,but we cant talk about any events due to the facts that the elders are dealing with things ,nothing can be proven as each case needs 2 witnesess, ,but how do you know all these things owwww sister furlong knows everything that goes on within the congregation,shes the tall elders wife . APPEARING AS AN ANGEL OF LIGHT. WAKE UP

  YOUR LIVING WITH THE DEVIL,GET OUT WHILE YOU CAN

  But this is between you and me dont repeat it otherwise YOU will be charged with gossipinggggggggggg

  DO YOU THINK THAT YOU HAVE HURT JEHOVAH .

  Edited by - nightwarrior on 28 January 2003 5:0:11
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  RAYZORBLADE

  Hi 'Nightwarrior'.

  It has been so long since I've been with the organization. Maybe 18-19 years ago. It was quite the struggle, as you are well aware of, given your recent post.

  The fact that you are here (A GOOD THING), is a sign of your ability to exercise 'critical thinking'. It isn't easy. You can 'take a person out of religion; but you can't take the religion out of the person' .

  Back in late 1983 and early 1984, I had NOTHING. No internet, no means of contacting other former Jehovah's Witnesses. At the time, I probably would have NOT been receptive. So for me, in some ways, it was a Catch 22 situation.

  I am hoping given your posts, and also, your intelligence, you'll be able to make the leap from THERE to OUTSIDE of the organization (WTBTS). It's difficult when the life you know is full of Jehovah's Witness associations, that is what I found at that time incredibly difficult.

  I'm glad you are a brave enough person to venture into here.

  Not certain as to what I can say to you here to reassure you, but I have been almost 20 years outside of the WTBTS, and each day, week, month, year and decade - gets better! The internet, is amazing. We can link up, similarly like-minded individuals posting a plethora of information. Some of it serious, some scriptural dealing with Watchtower doctrine, and some fun and light-hearted (totally necessary ).

  Hang in there, keep with us here.

  We're here to help, and we're here to reassure you with regards to your decisions. You won't be sorry; but of course, you will feel some seperation anxiety.

  I truly wish you the very best. Take care .
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  Sentinel

  Oh Nightwarrior, (((((hugs))))) to you

  All I can tell you is that this is what cult religious dogma does to people. It infests the membranes of our mind, and even though we get free of it in some ways, by moving to the sidelines, the lingering affects stay with us way too long.

  I got out in 1981, after ten years of "living the lie"--very well I might add. Originally, as a mere child of fourteen, I was baptised, and the service of Jah took over my entire thinking abilities. I was a serious bible student and was fully dedicated to what I thought was The Only Way. It gave me some hope and made me feel special. It was a lie, a horrible lie, that I realized when I was in my early twenties.

  I'm nearly 57 now, and it has only been the last couple of years that I have truly been free of this "monkey on my back". Even though I didn't believe it was "truth", there was still the slight lingering doubts, guilt and fear, which affected everything I did in life. It kept me from really living in a healthy way. Glad to say, that I am finally and thoroughly convinced beyond a shaddow of a doubt that their doctrines are false. When that happened, they lost their emotional hold on me. Also, I came to realize that religion has failed mankind miserably, and that true spirituallity comes from within, from connecting with your inner being, your soul, and being released to do what it is you were meant to do in this life you are living.

  There is a deep sadness and empathy for all those who are oppressed and burdened by the JW rules and regulations for acceptance within an "organization", and also other religions that people turn to for truth and understanding, which doesn't exist there. No matter how hard we try, it just isn't there. That hurts.

  There really is no turning back, once you have been shown the "true light". You might linger awhile, because of the fears of rejection and shunning. In time, you will tire of doing this, and you will know that the time is right. Someone said this once: "It only takes a moment. A moment of sanity. Clarity. A moment in which you know, deep inside yourself, that you've had enough. You've lived in pain too long. It's time to change."

  Take care of yourself and use all the good avenues to help yourself. When I was in my worst turmoils about my life, there was nowhere for me to turn. There was no quick connection to an internet, where I would find support and care and concern from others like me. I was all alone. That's why it took me so long, I think. You have friends here that care about you. When one foundation crumbles in our life, we just have to start building another one. It's a matter of survival.

  Best wishes to you.
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  blacksheep

  Nightwarrior: sorry for your fears: it's not an easy time. I've been out for nearly 20 years now (2nd gen witness), and I remember the fear/uncertainty, the loneliness. It's simply the cult talking, the conditioning that you *are* nothing without the organization. If you are resolute, and REALLY start seeing the inconsistencies of the org, and the fact that they *don't*, contrary to what the put forth, have the truth, gradually, you'll grow stronger and stronger in your individuality. Gradually, you'll see that not everyone and everything in the world is bad. You'll discover yourself, including your strengths and your weaknesses.

  I'm not saying it is easy, but believe me, it's well worth it. You are obviously a critical thinker. This is something the WTS discourages, becasue the more you think about it, the less they have to offer. I even went to college, which they also discourage. This helped me realize that there IS a whole world out there; that it doesn't center around a few JW's... I have a much better life now, and it's because I've been free to do what I want. Reading the following (when I was ready) helped me immensely: "Combatting Cult Mind Control," by Hassan, "The Orwellian World of Jehovah's Witnesses." Fortunately for you there's much more support through the internet and other orgs than there was when I was leaving. Take advantage of them!! It will help you to feel less alone. Take care, and I hope to see you around here.
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  nightwarrior

  Mrs Nightwarrior here,

  Oh dear,a correction is needed here...before it goes any further,,,,

  the posting that MR Nightwarrior gave was one of example and asking questions of how this scenario affects others... not that it has actually happened to him, he could not care less.... but he wants to thank you for your lovely words of encouragement that you have given.....

  I have to admit i did laugh when I started reading the posts because I knew where he was coming from, and that the situtation was hypothetical, despite knowing that these things do happen within the congs...

  Lots of agape love

  Mr and Mrs Nightwarrior

  Sorry for misleading you all.....