Another Sad story coming from WTS
by ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara 8 Replies latest jw friends
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Fadeaway1962
Admittedly, there have been instances where an “unbelieving husband” seems to prove that he is not “agreeable to staying with her.” He might be extremely physically abusive, even to the point that she feels that her health or life is in danger. He might refuse to support her and the family or severely endanger her spirituality. In such cases, some Christians have personally decided that, despite what he might say, the mate is not “agreeable to staying” together and that a separation is necessary. But other Christians in comparably difficult situations have not; they have endured and tried to work at improving matters. Why?
W/tower 2018 Dec
Showed this article to a domestic abuse agency's they were shocked and disgusted at JWs view of domestic abuse.
Very sad for the victim and the family
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ToesUp
We have cases in our very own family of domestic abuse within WT. The victims were actually encouraged by the Elders, to stay with their abusive spouses. WT will protect the abuser and victimize the victim(s) . We have seen it in our family. Just look how WT handles child sex abuse. We had a local case of abuse and the congregation sat behind the abuser in court and supported him.
This is a sad story. I hope the family gets the justice they deserve.
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RULES & REGULATIONS
December 2018 STUDY ARTICLE :
Honor “What God Has Yoked Together”
17 Admittedly, there have been instances where an “unbelieving husband” seems to prove that he is not “agreeable to staying with her.” He might be extremely physically abusive, even to the point that she feels that her health or life is in danger. He might refuse to support her and the family or severely endanger her spirituality. In such cases, some Christians have personally decided that, despite what he might say, the mate is not “agreeable to staying” together and that a separation is necessary. But other Christians in comparably difficult situations have not; they have endured and tried to work at improving matters. Why?
18 In such a separation, the two are still marriage mates. If they lived apart, each one would face challenges, as mentioned earlier. The apostle Paul gave another reason for staying united. He wrote: “The unbelieving husband is sanctified in relation to his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified in relation to the brother; otherwise, your children would be unclean, but now they are holy.” (1 Cor. 7:14) Many loyal Christians have remained with an unbelieving mate under very trying circumstances. They can testify that doing so was worthwhile in a special sense when their mate became a true worshipper. —Read 1 Corinthians 7:16; 1 Pet. 3:1, 2.
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Toes...
The case I know best the elders ordered the sister to be a submissive good wife. That got her beat up and the stepdaughter raped. She is out and the elders are still ruling over us.
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smiddy3
Many loyal Christians have remained with an unbelieving mate under very trying circumstances. They can testify that doing so was worthwhile in a special sense when their mate became a true worshipper. —Read 1 Corinthians 7:16; 1 Pet. 3:1, 2.
I wonder how many times this proved true as against how many times the victim continued to be abused and ended up dead .
Of course that would not be revealed in a WT or Awake magazine now would it.
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road to nowhere
So...stay with your abusive husband to pull him in with love BUT shun a DF person to pull him with hate?
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Fadeaway1962
As a male victim/survivor of domestic abuse , when I meet with the elders was told to be more assertive in my marriage they wanted to study with us,even though she had meet with them before I did and admitted to them the things she did they did not view it as domestic abuse and they refused to look at approved domestic abuse website NHS, police etc, and said I was lying .
It took me years to leave because had dependant children, but had been in contact with agency's for many and been advised to leave many times.
The tactics domestic abusers use is basically the same as the witnesses use to control and manipulate people.
Many people male& female are trapped in toxic relationships if you know anyone be kind and listen and encourage them to leave at their own time unless in imminent danger of physical harm.
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ZindagiNaMilegiDobaara
Dear Jehovah,
Just dropping you a line to say I and my children are dead. I put my abusive husband in the SFJTD* box about a year ago.....hopefully you'll get to it before the neighbours notice the smell.....
*SFJTD stands for Something For Jesus To Do (for those who don t know).
Zing