recently disassociated after 27 years - 12 disfellowshipped) having read Ray Franz and others now know some of the truth about the 'truth' Still struggling to comprehend
But have lost my exquisite female friend Kasandra in the turmoil (she seems to have always been very similar to born again christians (hysterically emotional and no bible study) - also now into spiritualism and is now showing it) and I need meaningful Bible discussion (especially with her) not anger and recrimination or pseudo intelectuallity - just people
I'm 70 next year - there IS not too much time left
Unfortunately, Harmy, I've learned through life that you can't change someone else. You can only change yourself. Sometimes in changing one's self, the significant other is moved to change as well. We each must be true to our own soul's journey, and sometimes that journey is on separate roads.
70 is not "old" these days. You are still alive and still thinking and growing. Moving out of a comfort zone is always so difficult and scary, but once done, it most always turns out better than you could ever imagine. Perhaps you could encourage your friend to read the posts on here; that would be a start to better understanding.
70 yrs old, hey man that is great -- it is so good to see that regardless of ones age if you are a lover of TRUTH age makes no difference
while i understand your comment about not much time left, i have always felt that if a mature jw like yourself finds out the real deal, what years are left be it another 10-20 or even 30yrs
you can spend the rest of your life not feeling guilty cause you are not poineering at 75yrs of age, or out selling wt on sat when your body may not feel like being outdoors
spend the rest of your life, playing golf, shuffle board or scuba diving, whatever is your fancy
Welcome to the board, harmy! I am always encouraged to see people older than me (I'm 47) who refuse to stay stuck in a toxic situation just because it is familiar. My grandmother learned to read and write at the age of 70 because she wanted to read the Bible for herself (her husband was a Greek Orthodox priest). Granted, she became a JW (hey, nobody's perfect!), but I always admired her drive and desire to keep learning no matter what her age. Hope I will be that cool.
I hope you enjoy what you read on this board and we look forward to hearing from you!
Most of us have seen first-hand the difficulties in getting others to understand something just because we now know better. After all, it sounds like it took you several years to see the truth about the "truth". That was true of the rest of us, too. Tell us a little more about her, however. More often than not, attempting to push people to see something just drives them farther away, at least for the present. But if you know something about this person that makes you believe she may be an exception, then let us know more about her.
I'd be happy to write her. I think she should at least know that you were willing to make a great effort here to get things to work out between you. (And she should know that you think of her as "exquisite".)
I'll try to come up with some wording for an email I'd like to send her if I can get more info about her relationship to the JWs, to you, to Christianity, etc. I'll show you the email here first and you can critique.
Welcome to the board! No matter what age you are, finding out the real truth is what is important, and living your life in a way of feeling no guilt or any of the pressures from it are priceless.
