Empathizing with JW Kids

by JT 8 Replies latest jw friends

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  JT

  For those of us who grew up as jw kids, the life as a jw child is often time very difficult. While we are out of wt and we can talk politcs and take sides unlike before, I can't help but feel for the jw kids who are in school

  as the nationlism increases with the kids being assigned to write to the national guard guys from their town, it is like Hell for the poor jw child who has no idea of WHY HE CAN'T wish a man a safe return to his family.

  instead all he can say is "Cause my mommy told me not to cause i am a jw"

  it is so sad the way the kids are treated and for what NO REASON AT ALL as the wt sits at the table of the UN discussing issues while thier members are suffering like dogs

  how sad
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  Maverick

  Dear JT: I did not grow up a J-dud but my little girl did. Fortunately she 'saw' through the BS and would not go along in her teens. I have custody and she is free to live her life as she wishes. Her Dud mother tries to lay guilt on her but the girl is over it. I do feel I cheated her out of some things but she seems not to hold it against me. She knows I was a dud and that says it all! I feel for you guys, you were robbed! Life it hard enough on the young without being put under a magnifying glass! Maverick
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  animal

  Some of us got past it, some didnt.....

  Animal
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  metatron

  JT, you're just scratching the surface.

  Being raised as a Witness kid is frequently an educational course in "loser-ology"

  The world is run by Satan, persecution is always around the corner, college is discouraged, 'worldly people' are

  out to get you, the world is always getting worse, blah, blah

  This is - and worthless, phoney field service and vacuous five-meetings-a-week

  is how you ruin kids for life.

  metatron
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  cruzanheart

  I would ask my kids if they miss being JW's but they are SO busy right now going to birthday parties and playing with their friends that they just can't take the time to answer.

  Nina
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  MoeJoJoJo

  Its funny, my daughter's Brownie meeting is in a church basement on Tuesday nights, we have to drive by the KH we used to attend on our way to the church. I tease my girls and ask if they would rather go to the meeting instead of brownies, they say "no way mom!" They say that the KH meetings were boring. They don't miss it at all, they have made lots of new friends, the friends they have chosen are all great, well-mannered kids.

  It is very difficult growing up as a JW having to be so different and afraid of everything, afraid you are going to displease Jehovah. When I was in second grade I ate a piece of birthday cake and felt so guilty and felt like I was so displeasing to god. Kids don't need that kind of guilt.

  I didn't like going to school because there was always something to deal with because of the religion. I think that's why so many witness kids are eager to be homeschooled.
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  JT

  I do feel I cheated her out of some things but she seems not to hold it against me.

  you should not feel that you cheated her and it maybe the fact that she understands YOU DID NOT, but instead you only told her what you thought was best BASED ON WHAT WE KNOW WAS BAD INFORMATION

  most kids like yours understand once we explain it to them i have seen so many times
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  JT

  Some of us got past it, some didnt.....

  excellent point, and alot of times it varied based on high spiritual the jw parents were and the number of other jw kids in school,

  it jw child exp was different no doubt, due to age and so many other factors that make us who we are as humans, but like you mentioned some have been able to adjust better than others

  case in point is us as adults, for jw who left wt in the 60-70-80's WITHOUT ANY KNOWLEDGE OR SUPPORT like we have today, many had a harder time adjusting to leaving

  i firmly believe that in a few more years so many jw will have left, so many support groups, new chatrooms will be availble to help with the transition out of wt, the process of leaving will be less painfully than ever before,

  in fact it can ONLY GET BETTER with the passing of time- after awhile as can see now it is becoming FASHIONABLE TO LEAVE WT AND LAUGH AT THE CHEESE CRACKER MEN- SMILE
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  JT

  JT, you're just scratching the surface.

  Being raised as a Witness kid is frequently an educational course in "loser-ology"

  The world is run by Satan, persecution is always around the corner, college is discouraged, 'worldly people' are

  out to get you, the world is always getting worse, blah, blah

  This is - and worthless, phoney field service and vacuous five-meetings-a-week

  is how you ruin kids for life.

  YOU ARE SO TRUE but is it not interesting that as you talk to folks here on the net it is the kids who adjust the faster, cause they hated those meeting ANYWAY- SMILE

  the comment below sums it up nicely what it is like for a FORMER JW KID:

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  would ask my kids if they miss being JW's but they are SO busy right now going to birthday parties and playing with their friends that they just can't take the time to answer.

  Nina