Your Mortality And JW Relatives

by ColdRedRain 5 Replies latest jw friends

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  ColdRedRain

  I have a lump in the back of my mouth. It appeared around thanksgiving, and it was preceeded by a large black spot that appeared when I started smoking cheap cigarettes. (Note to smokers, DO NOT SMOKE WINNERS!)

  I went to go get it checked out by 3 doctors. They gave unsatisfactory diagnoses. One even said that the reason why I had the black spot on the roof of my mouth was because of my dark skin color, and not because i smoked cheap cigs.

  Anyways, the lump's been starting to hurt me, and I told my parents about it.

  They said "You know, if you were following Jehovah's laws on smoking, that wouldn't happen." and "You wouldn't get a ressurection."

  It's depressing.

  Has anybody else faced up with these kind of responses when faced with their own mortality?
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  Granny Linda

  In answer to your specific question, no. I did want to reply though because it must be scarey for you, and I acknowledge your post.

  JW relatives. Ya know I'm just about ready to write another letter to my fence-riding sister telling her all bets are off about dropping by with my JW mother when she comes from out of state to see our younger sister.

  What your parents told you is such a cruel thing. But as I was just this morning reminded; do we really expect differently from those stuck in that cultish thinking? I'm sorry, sincerely, that you, like so many are shamed and spoken to as tho you do not matter. Perhaps, if you are fortunate, your parents will see the error of their way...

  Wishing the best for you on this health issue...

  granny
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  Francois

  Get thyself to an oncologist right away, NOW. Bill it to your parents. DO SOMETHING while something can still be done. It may be nothing, but you won't know and you'll not get any rest till you know. DO IT. Go to the school nurse and see if she doesn't get the ball rolling.

  francois
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  riz

  ColdRedRain-

  PLEASE go see an oncologist as soon as possible. Like Francois said, do something while you have time. I'm so sorry- I know you must be so scared.

  Unfortunately, I can believe your parents said what they said. After all, they are jehovah's witnesses. They specialize in saying things that you wouldn't think loving compassionate human beings would be capable of saying to eachother; let alone members of your own family.

  ((((((((CRR))))))))))
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  ColdRedRain

  Good news. I saw a doctor today. One that didn't seem braindead, he said all looked OK, but I should go for another visit. On my next visit, I'm going to make sure the lump gets removed.
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  berylblue

  Cold,

  What a terrible thing to say to someone. I am so sorry.

  I'm glad you are all right, but do follow up please.

  Rosemarie