Ever had anyone tell you that they "were going to dance on your grave"?

by anti-absolutist 2 Replies latest jw friends

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  anti-absolutist

  I'm not quite as new as is shown. I previously existed as anti-absolutism but had to change my name because of a screw up of my computer.

  Some of you may remember that my wife (of 10 years) and I are separating. We were both df'd 11 years ago, she got re-instated, but drifted away again. I never went back. I'm not certain as to why she wants to end our marriage, but I respect her decision. We are both still living in the same house, though, while we try to sort out the new arrangements.

  My mother-in-law, a regular pioneer, was over the other day. She evidently has become frustrated with the failure of the first legal effort to get me out of the house. Out of the blue, while I was giving my 5-year old a hug good-bye she started freaking on me. She came up to within 6 inches of my face and started yelling all kinds of obscenities, ending with, and I quote: "I can't wait till you are dead and I'll be dancing on your grave." I am being completely honest when I say it was a non-provoked attack.

  It just boggles my mind and shocks me that these self-professed CHOSEN ones (JW's) can act so pathetically. What scares me further is that my wife, (as we separate more emotionally), is going further and further into the arms of her mother. In the past she has suffered great emotional stress from her mother and yet doesn't even understand how ABSOLUTELY INSANE it was for her mother to say what she did, especially in front of my son.

  More scary is that my kids spend a lot of time with her mom and she lets them go to the meeting with her often...............AAAAARRRRRGGGGHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!!!

  God, I wish she would realize the danger that the kids are in!!!!

  Anybody have any previous experience in this area? I hope no one has, but if you do, I would like the help. Thanks, Brad
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  neverthere

  Brad, did she do this right in front of your daughter? You must document everything that happens, making sure to write it down, date and time and tell someone right after it happens.

  If she is doing this sort of thing in front of your kids you must try to make sure that her time with your kids is limited and SUPERVISED. Advise your lawyer right away, trust me, you will be so glad that you did,

  good luck,

  neverthere
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  anti-absolutist

  neverthere,

  Thanks for the response. Yes she did do it while my wife, her daughter was right there. The strongest response I gave to her mom was "you are a loser". It wasn't a perfect response but I was taken a bit by surprise. I should also say, (that just came back to me) that her mother, while still being 6 inches from my face, was yelling, "hit me, hit me, I'd just love for you to hit me!!!!!!"

  After her mother had left, I calmly tried to talk to my wife about, feeling that THIS incident would surely, finally convince my wife of the damage that her mother has and continues to bring about to everyone. My wife wouldn't hear it. Unfortunately, even though she hasn't been to a JW meeting in about 6 years, she hasn't escaped the JW mentality of their actions being OK no matter how insane they are to regular people in the world. That is the biggest problem I feel that I have with dubs......... they are the CHOSEN people of God and the rest of the world is not, thereby automatically allowing them to believe that how they act to non-JW's is fine, no matter how irrational or insane or damaging it is to innocent ones.

  Ever read some of the articles in their Awake and Watchtower about how important it is to get custody of the kids in a family break-up, just because if a child is not a JW they are going to DIE at Armaggeddon. Just bonkers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  Thank you for the advice of writing it down as well, neverthere.

  Brad