be wise,
Please don't take this the wrong way, but why are you going? To pay your respects? The kindly old sister won't know! I'm not being callous, I know WHY you want to attend, but it could bring you problems in the long-term.
I know plenty of old people in my ex-congregation that I really loved and respected. I've wondered what I'd do if they died - but it certainly wouldn't be to attend their funerals at a KH. I've seriously thought about this. The talk will be 90% baloney (though there should be a good 10% at least about the person). Remember, the person is dead so won't know you're there. Your presence, however, might not go unnoticed by others.
It is really wonderful that you should want to pay your last respects but you'd be in the company of a majority with whom you have nothing in common and listening to a talk that you don't believe. I swear that if either of my daughters, who are still in the Org, died I would DEFINITELY NOT attend their funeral at a KH because I just could not sit through any more of that old garbage. Ask anyone who knows me how much I love my family and they'll tell you I love them deeply. I'd die for them - but I could NEVER go and listen to that junk again. The dead are dead and can be respected in other ways. Take time out to write a letter to relatives telling them how much the lady meant to you. THAT would have greater impact and, believe me, you'd feel good about it.
I sincerely mean no disrespect here. We're all different and I appreciate that. Just giving you my thoughts. Whatever, I hope your decision makes the situation more bearable for you.
Dansk
