Slimboyfat - elders do the same (implicate victims in further abuse). When they threw me out, one of the elders could not bear it. So they put him on the judicial committee. Make them all guilty and it establishes unity.
The day of the 2nd judicial, I decided to try one last time to tell them to call it off. There I found that elder sat on a wall. He could not watch what the other men were doing to me. But by God's strength I stood up to them so well, one of them even shook my hand out of some need to show respect. Then I left them to set about their loathsome act of defamation. But outside I saw the other elder. He was sat on a low wall, crying out 'I am in so much pain, I am in so much pain.' I went up to him and said, "don't worry I love. Don't worry." He was rocking backwards and forwards. He told me it was his knees. Maybe he was in pain but I felt he was deeply stressed by what he was expected to be part of. He was a kind and gentle man. If he had been in that much pain with his knees I have no idea how he walked there.
What I wanted him to understand was that I understood his predicament. And if ever he got out of his predicament, we could be friends again.
But as long as people take no action to separate from bullies/blasphemers and perverts etc, sadly they miss out on loving kindness and support of real friends. Sometimes you have to be brave, stand up and do the right things. When you don't, you pay a high price and it is your own fault. And it will carry on like that until you, yourself make the change.
