What makes a relationship endure?

Gopher

For those who have experienced or have seen a good, lasting, healthy relationship (be it with a significant-other or in a marriage), in your opinion what makes it endure? What is missing when it fails?

(a) Up-front compatibility.

(b) The determination to make the relationship/marriage last, even when certain obstacles arise.

(c) Willingness to get counselling/help to make it through tough spots.

(d) The three-fold cold with Jehovah in the middle.

(e) Other (please specify).

Thanks for your thoughts!!

Joyzabel

ROTFLMAO @ D!

Reborn2002

LOL

I would have to say D. We all know that Jehovah provides for his servants and that all families within the Watchtower Society are morally irreprehensible and to be admired and idolized by everyone.

Jehovah God is the third cord that holds the relationship together, for three are stronger than two.

Ok I have quoted enough of the Watchtower propaganda as given in Dub marriage talks for one post. I am going to gag.

SheilaM

a) Up-front compatibility.

(b) The determination to make the relationship/marriage last, even when certain obstacles arise.

(c) Willingness to get counselling/help to make it through tough spots.

(d) The three-fold cold with Jehovah in the middle.

(e) Other (please specify).

Everything but d I also find the e encompasses a man and woman unwilling to sleep on the couch LOL Thunder also doesn't want to have sex if he's mad so we rarely fight.

19 years and still going

JeffT

All of the above, with a couple of notations.

d) for me means whatever sprititual component is important to the two of you. Whatever that is the WTBS doesn't qualify as a "spirtitual component" in my book because it's a book and magazine publishing corporation. Christianity (the real version i.e. our own beliefs, not filtered by somebody else) works for us, but I'm not prepared to say something else won't fill the bill.

e) other - sex. If you don't have a vibrant sex life you're roommates, not soul mates. Of course sometimes physical, mental or other problems will interfer with a healthy sex life, but even in those cases it needs to be dealt with.

Jeff - going on 29 years.

Ravyn

other:

falling in love again with your best friend every day --even when the bills are not paid and the dirty clothes are on the floor and the in laws are calling you collect.

Ravyn

Gopher

falling in love again with your best friend every day

That is so beautiful !! I believe that if you can "fall in love" with your relationship/marriage partner over and over again, for many different reasons, despite obstacles, then you really have something special !! Thanks for that wonderful post, Ravyn.

LyinEyes

yeah what Ravyn said, ........WildTurkey and I have been married over 18 years, we have been thru so much together. We have grown up together, and each year we learn more about each other.

We laugh together, fight together,,,hehe,,,share our stories of the day.

Our children have cemented our relationship even more, and the joys and trails of them, keep us busy.

Since leaving the borg, we now go out once a week , just us two, and have a night out on the town....... that has done wonders for us, leaving all worries behind for just a few hours.

We have our our future dreams and goals that we share too. I think you have to work at being connected, and always look for ways to make things interesting , by also challanging yourself.

SheilaM

Lyin:

Thunder read your post and was shocked he said "THEY are so much like us" So WHAT SHE SAID LOL

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