I'm praying I'm not breaking any confidentialities here, but early this morning I got paged to attend a case in another part of the hospital of a woman who had mis-carried at 18 weeks. I think in 12 years since being qualified I have never come up against anything so heart-wrenching. Just how do you cope/help with a couple trying to comprehend this?. The woman was sat there just holding her baby, for a good 3 hours, before she went off to surgery. I've seen lots of nasty stuff with RTA's, assaults and cancer etc, all which are awful. But I don't think I was at all prepared for this. I've come home tonight, and can't seem to get it out of my head, guess I'm just trying to let off stress. It made me think even harder about the times when we all say what a crap day we've had, coz this or that didn't go right, when in reality, we really don't know how lucky the majority of us are. I'm sorry to post this awful thing, suppose I needed to vent a bit. Refuge in a beer.
Just how do you deal with this awful thing?
by ScoobySnax 5 Replies latest jw friends
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Brummie
Scooby I can think of nothing more heart wrenching and gutting than watching a mother crying over her lost child, it has a profound effect on me too, the image lingers for days if not months. Makes me question everything about the purpose of life.
Very sad for her
Brummie
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nicolaou
Offer her a 'loved ones' tract and share the hope of the ressurrection.
God! 10 years ago I would have been insensitive enough to do that!
'Knowing' what to say is seldom the answer. If I were in your position Scooby I would be stumped as well but there's nothing wrong with that, it's just human. All you can do is sympathise and make yourself available. Good luck to you!
Nic'
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shamus
Pretty brutal. I wouldn't want to have to deal with stuff like that on a daily basis.
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arrowstar
((Scooby))
My goodness...my heart goes out to you and to that mother. How very sad.
You're right. Something like that makes you realize just how good our lives really are in the scheme of things.
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Lady Lee
I think we all have choices about how we deal with this kind of loss. We can get caught up in the horror of it or we can appreciate the fragility of life and love. We can seize life and make the most of it.
In the past the baby would have been whisked away with no opportunity for the mother to come to terms with her loss
I cannot imagine a more poignant moment than to watch a mother hold her tiny infant in the palm of her hand. To stroke its tiny body. To be in awe at this tiny miracle. To love. To cry. To grieve. To say goodbye. To let go.
In that moment we can choose to be haunted by the sharing of this experience or to honor it