My DF’d brothers eyes were opened yesterday

by be wise 6 Replies latest jw friends

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  be wise

  I was speaking to my DF’d brother last night, it’s the first time I’ve seen him in a while. We got talking about the JW thing. I told him about a lot of the truth about them as he asked questions. He said I can’t believe it, it’s as if my eyes have been opened. He was very at what he’d gone through for these people unnecessarily but he really made me see things more clearly. It’s different when you see someone else figure these things out.

  I’m glad I was able to show him ‘the light’ and I hope he can go somewhere from here. He accepts he’s still affected by a lot of it. I’m just trying to point him in the right direction so he isn’t bitter and can make something positive out of this but his experience was much worse than mine. The good news he’s now on the road to healing – brilliant!

  (a very happy) be wise.
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  RAYZORBLADE

  Be Wise - Wow! This is great news.

  I'm happy to read that your brother is on mend with regards to his former JW life. It isn't easy. But he (your brother) has a damn fine brother who cares about him and can share with him things he was not privy to before.

  I'm really delighted Be Wise.

  My best wishes. Perhaps...we'll see him on here one day.

  In the meantime, keep us posted. This is excellent news, it made my day!
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  Billygoat

  This is awesome! I love hearing stories like this!
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  flower

  I had a amazingly similar experience with my own brother few months back. It never ceases to amaze me when I read things so similar that I could have written them myself. Its almost creepy!

  Good luck to you and your brother

  flower
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  bikerchic

  ((be wise)) I'm really glad to hear that you were able to show your brother "the light". It's impowering to know there is light at the end of the tunnel and you are a wonderful person to help him on his road to recovery.

  I've talked in length to my son who was DF'ed in his early 20's. I never shunned him, and it's been heart wenching for me as a mother to see his heartbreak when the majority of his childhood friends, cousins, aunts, uncles, a grandparent, and people who have known him all life shunned him. At that time I remember feeling good that I never was a J-dubie hardliner and he had a lot of good worldly friends who could pick up where the J-dubs couldn't or wouldn't.

  It was the worste time of his life and he really needed people to be supportive of him. Gawd I took him to suicide prevention, those bastards!

  Katie
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  Undecided

  My brother was disfellowshipped because he allowed his JW wife to decorate for Christmas. His eyes were opened when I let him read my copy of COC. He doesn't worry about that BS anymore. We have a much better relationship since his being DFed, although I just faded away and was never DFed. You can never completely rid yourself of the effects of the Borg, especially if you were raised from birth through your teenage years into adulthood. At least it doesn't have any control over you any longer if your family isn't in the borg.

  Ken P.
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  Huxley

  What an encouraging experience! (flashback)

  It's nice to hear stories like this..it gives me some hope!

  viva esperanza

  Huxley