The Truth Keeps This Marriage Together!

Nosferatu

Just to let you know, my mother is a JW, my father isn't. I had a bit of a conversation with my mother last night. To get into all the details of why they don't belong together would take up pages. I know that my mother is unhappy staying with him. Personally, I think they would be much better off if they were to split up.

My mother keeps on telling me "The truth keeps this marriage together". Yesterday, I came up with a good question to come back with. After she told me this, I asked "What is the purpose of this marriage staying together?" She just told me that it's all for me, and she wouldn't want to put me through a separation or divorce.
My personal belief is that people should do whatever they need to keep their lives satisfactory and happy. I think my mother would me much happier if she were separated from my father. The "Truth" keeps people unhappy.

95stormfront

This phenomena is not limited to "unevenly yoked" marriages. Both my MIL and FIL are witnesses, despearately unhappy with each other, yet they continue to stay together, making each other miserable, because of the image they want to project for the org.

Very Sad....

blondie

She just told me that it's all for me, and she wouldn't want to put me through a separation or divorce.

Then tell her it won't hurt you if she does leave. Tell her it hurts you more to see her stay in an abusive marriage. Tell her you will help her leave.

She is using you as a scapegoat. Make sure she knows how you feel, that she would be better off, happy (not happier because that implies she is happy now). Seeing her happy is what would really make you happy.

Blondie (been used by my mother as a reason to stay in an abusive marriage)

Francois

What Blondie said. After all, you're not an emotionally immature six year-old. Your mother's remark sounds like a guilt trip to me, and a way to escape responsibility for the result of her own choosing.

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little witch

Yeah, what Blondie and Francois said.

''My bad decisions are someone else's fault''!

Stephanus

I think my mother would me much happier if she were separated from my father.

Could she be happier with your father if she wasn't in "da Troof"?

Mary

I know someone like this. This sister, whose husband was a pedophile and actually got disfellowshipped has stayed with him, despite pressure from everyone to cut the bastard loose. Even the elders approached her, telling her that she had every right to divorce this scumbag, but she said to her daughter "where would I go? What would I do? I've never been on my own in my life." She then droned on about "taking her marriage vows seriously" and "Jehovah hates a divorcing" all to justify her decision to stay with her loser husband. She also told her daughter that she was "doing it" for her, even though her daughter told her point blank to divorce the pig.