My colleague and I had to work in fairly close quarters for the past year or so on a project. This is a man I have known and respected for a long time and certainly have NO sexual feelings for. (I am female). All of a sudden he told me we could no longer work together and since then has cut off all communication routes totally. On investigation I learned that he had developed feelings for me and as a devout Catholic had felt forced to confess them and then cut me out of his life forever. I feel this is very sad, as we worked well together and the problem, if any , could have been overcome by conversation.
will a catholic give me a considered opinion on this please????????????????
by petespal2002 5 Replies latest jw experiences
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A Paduan
Are either of you married ? If so then perhaps he feels his feelings toward you aren't appropriate if he can't regain composure through conversation - that's about the only catholicity I can think of - hardly specifically catholic - though it could be that he wants to marry a catholic or something.
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bluesapphire
Maybe he has a "hidden sin" about you and that's what he confessed to. Maybe being around you is too much for him if he wants to discontinue his "sin". Why don't you ask for clarification.
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petespal2002
I have tried asking for clarification as you suggested but all I meet with is a brick wall. He made it clear it is a Catholic thing, and he is very catholic, midnight mass etc. He is widowed so I suppose there could be some guilt there.
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bebu
Hi Petespal,
Sorry to hear of your frustrating situation.
I was raised Catholic; there are some other Catholics on the board who might recognize it if there's a special thing that's going on here. But all I can think of is, this guy has probably been trying for a while to just shut down his feelings for you (it seems that either you are married or he knows that you are not interested and he is just dealing with feelings for you that can't be "resolved" properly--or whatever). It hasn't been working, so he finally decided to just change things where he doesn't have to see you and then struggle.
Just relax for awhile, and maybe in a few months he may be over the crush.
Anyway, a late 'welcome aboard!'
bebu
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bluesapphire
Come to think of it ..... I remember using the excuse that I was catholic to break off a relationship a long time ago. I was separated from my first husband -- going through guilt feelings because I was getting involved with another man. So I broke it off and said that even after my divorce I would still be married in god's eyes, etc. hmmmm.