Just met my son's girlfriend

Dawn

Yep - she's really cute too! He's had a few girlfriends before, but until now he has been much more interested in sports and cars - this new girl seems to have turned his attention a bit more.

So after meeting her, I'm thinking back to when I was 17 and had my first REAL love. He was "worldly" and what a ruckus THAT one caused! Isn't that just STUPID!! My parents weren't worried about my grades, my future career, anything like that, they just didn't want people to find out I had a wordly boyfriend. We had to sneak around to see each other - and of course, I got busted and in trouble. One night after my mom caught me sneaking around she kept me up into the wee hours reading my bible scriptures - yea - THAT did a lot of good! After we broke up I fell in love again - this time with an elder's son - quite in love we were - but his parents hated me - because I wasn't GOOD enough for their son - so - once again - I had to sneak around. We got busted too and were forbidden to see each other.

But you know - instead of feeling bad about this, I just feel so excited for my son that he doesn't have to go through that. He will have a NORMAL dating relationship - he's happy!

It heals my heart to know that the bull$h!t stopped with ME and was not passed on to another generation . I'm a very happy camper tonight!

PS...in case you were wondering.......the "elder's son" turned out to be a real LOOSER - I now thank god that his parents hated me and wouldn't let us get married! Otherwise I would never have met this great man that I'm married to now - you know - the one WITHOUT the messed up JW background

yxl1

Dawn,

Your post reminded me of a little incident that happened just before I left the Dubs. There was an Elders daughter who was 17 years old and who happened to be interested in a young black brother who was 20 years of age. When things started getting serious (ie they would go on the field service together – chaperoned of cause) the young sisters father approached the young brother and told him to keep away from his daughter. After two weeks of constantly asking the Elder why he was no longer allowed to see his daughter, the Elder eventually wrote him a letter stating that his daughter was too young to date, and should be using her energies praising Jah. He also mentioned that even though he had no problems with blacks, mixed marriages never work!!

Within a month, the young sister was ENGAGED to an older (nearer the fathers age!) brother who happened to be a good friend of her dads and who happened to be a Ministerial Servant!

They were married, pregnant and divorced within a year.

rocketman

Dawn, it sounds like it was a big headache and heartache all the way around for you when you were younger. It's great that, as you said, it all stopped with you and your son can carry on a normal courtship, minus all the hassles.

rocketman of the 'I dated and married outside the .Org because it was otherwise a pain in the butt' class

Dawn

'I dated and married outside the .Org because it was otherwise a pain in the butt'

It was painful. But I look at it this way - if I hadn't gone through that I might not have seen the REAL truth and then my kids would have to suffer through it. I'd gladly suffer any amount of pain to spare it from them. Guess I'm just glad it's all over.

Swan

It heals my heart to know that the bull$h!t stopped with ME and was not passed on to another generation

Like Melissa Etheridge in one of her songs,

Mothers tell your children
Be quick you must be strong
Life is full of wonder
Love is never wrong
Remember how they taught you
How much of it was fear
Refuse to hand it down
The legacy stops here

That is so cool Dawn. My best wishes to you and your son.

Tammy

Vivamus

That's so cool Dawn. I'm glad you like her, and she must like you as well. Tell me, were you nervous to meet your son's g/f... I know I'm nervous as hell to meet my boyfriend's mum, and it would make me feel better if mum's are also nervous

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D8TA

Hey....

I wanna "girlfriend".

Anybody?

mouthy

D8TA >> does age matter ( wink) wink)

tinkerbell82

Hey.... I wanna "girlfriend".

hey d8ta.... www.jwmatch.com ... find yaself a nice witness gal! ;) they've got success stories galooooooore!!!

Special K

For some of us.. Like you Dawn.. You have the Key to what makes all this with while

You have the same key that I am using when I feel down about my J.W. miserable childhood and adolescents..

That key.. unlocked the mould we were in and got us out of that cursed religion...

We have passed the key on to our children and now they can unlock anydoors they want .. and then make choices whether they want to take a look around in those rooms of life , or not.

Good job.. you like I, have saved our children from another generation of "crap"

We can look at our children and say with an open heart

"GO AND BE FREE AND LIVE!!!" for I truly love you

Best to you and yours..

Special K

Just met my son's girlfriend

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