Revenge is sweet....or is it?

by berylblue 7 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • berylblue
    berylblue

    Was reading an article about persons who had gotten revenge on someone who had hurt them (and not even in signficant ways). I am trying hard to remember when I personally have ever exaxcted even a modicum of revenge on even some apalling wounds that others inflicted on me. (I wonder why I am like that.) I can't remember even one time.

    Who here has "gotten even" with someone else, what was it for, and what did you do? Did it feel good or did it back fire? (I note that even when I speak my mind, it always backfires on me, which is why I basically keep my mouth shut even when I'm really upset and angry.)

    Rosemarie

  • freein89
    freein89

    I think PLANNING revenge, but not carrying it out works. But you have to plan revenge that would't cause any harm. My daughter is in college and her previous room mates were nasty, when they all moved out they left the dining room table to pick up another day. My daughter said they didn't clean and they stole some of her food from the freezer. I told her to smear some grape jelly under the edges of the table so they would get sticky hands when they came to move it. We laughed and she didn't do it-thats my girl! Now her friends are rooming with her and she's happy, we had fun plotting and no one got hurt. When we finished plotting she was no longer upset, she was laughing - gotta cheer up my kids when they are down. Grape jelly, good clean fun!!!! Any fun revenge stories out there.

  • arrowstar
    arrowstar

    Grape jelly? I love it!! What a great idea!

    Personally, revenge always backfires. No matter what you do...it will always come back and bite you. I like the idea of plotting the revenge...just letting the creative juices flow...but I would never exact revenge. Much as I think I would like to some days...but that feeling passes and logic takes over. Damn that logical mind of mine!!

    Nice to meet you freein89.

    Arrowstar

  • Thunder Rider
    Thunder Rider

    When we are wronged we lose part of ourselves. We are less than we were. That should not be taken lightly.

    Revenge is something people see as petty, for the most part, revenge is perceived this way because revenge can be so painful. We trade one pain for another. However, the saying of vengeance solving nothing is the main point here, as vengeance done correctly can solve most things. What is the true goal of vengeance? Not peace, but rather it is satisfaction, satisfaction that calms the blood lust, to forget a trespass against us, to introduce the transgressor to the pain you are feeling. Forgiveness does not yield satisfaction, forgiveness simply yields. It yields to the whim of all those whom you allow to hold sway over you, it yields to the perverse desires of those who refuse to play by the rules you force yourself to abide and adhere to, it gives the evil carte blanche. That must not be allowed.

    Revenge brings satisfaction, and the only way to true peace is by having the satisfaction of knowing your enemy is not prospering at your expense. For the hate to subside, there must be peace, there must be satisfaction of a punishment. The noble idea of the death penalty is nothing more than revenge, but revenge of the most hypocritical nature, for you do not want to see a murderer punished, though that is the excuse the majority of you use,you want to see the murderer killed, dead, that is not punishment, that is revenge.

    Revenge is simple, all those who wrong you, you do not punish them, you do not perform simple vengeance,all enemies are removed. Revenge is removing a threat entirely.Revenge is making your enemies non-existent.

    If you survive it you can be whole again.

    Thunder

  • berylblue
    berylblue

    GREAT post, Thunder, thanks

  • Scully
    Scully

    As much as thinking about exacting revenge on someone who has wronged me is a wonderful way of relieving tension and pain that they have inflicted on me, I never ever act on my thoughts. There is a certain satisfaction in having the self-control to not stoop to the level of the person who has betrayed me.

    Karma is a much harsher mistress than I could ever hope to be anyway. Even though I usually write scathing angry letters of contempt to someone who has hurt me deeply, I will never send them. Those letters are a vehicle for purging myself of the negativity. I keep them tucked away for a time and then forget about them. Later when I read them again, if I still feel upset, I put them away for another length of time. If I don't feel upset anymore when I read the letter, I light a candle and set the letter on fire. It's a kind of symbolic in gratitude that the pain no longer affects me as it did when the incident first happened.

    Love, Scully

  • kgfreeperson
    kgfreeperson

    Many years ago, I fell afoul of a couple of people who, apparently, didn't think I had any allies or resources to protect myself. They put me through an extremely bad year--so bad that it took me several years to really get myself back. The only thing I did to set "revenge" in motion, was to make sure that the powers that were knew exactly what was going on. But you can imagine my sense that sometimes there is justice when one of my tormentors was told not to even bother going for tenure because she was never going to get it and the other lost his position as Dean that he desperately wanted and had to "return to teaching" (read couldn't get another position anywhere else). It didn't have to do with me; they were both toxic people and I was only one of many who they perceived to be in their way (I'm writing as if they weren't--just acting in concert against me at that point) and eventually they got their comeuppance. But I have to admit, it was lovely to see.

  • Stephanus
    Stephanus

    Dumas' Count of Monte Cristo is worth reading as regards this topic. In it Edmond Dantes is betrayed by "friends" and is left to rot in prison. He escapes, finds a lost treasure and returns to France under an assumed ID to exact revenge on those who betrayed him (now all moved on into positions of wealth and prestige), and to reward those who tried to help him. Yes, his revenge does destroy those he hates, but he finds that the events he sets in motion start hurting others, including children and the very people he is trying to help. You kind of wonder if it was all worth it in the end...

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