Back from the dinner......

by Boolean 7 Replies latest jw friends

  • Boolean
    Boolean

    Hey guys it's me again!!!

    I know it been a awhile since I last came on, but here's what happened when I arrived at my parents home after 18 months of not associating with each other. Well things went ok, it was great to see them in a normal way. We hugged and they seemed really enthusiastic to see me. Started to feel a little suspicious though, but I soon left the dodgy feelings to one side and decided to give it a try.

    We talked and talked for ages, they asked how I was doing and I said I had a few rough patches here and there, but on the whole, I was ok. I asked them why they suddenly wanted me over for dinner? Well they kind of looked at each other and then told me they were sorry why they shunned me. They said they were hurt on the way I left, and they didnt understand why?

    I guess I should have been honest with them...completely. They asked me if I atleast still believed in God, and I said that I never in my life ever had a chance to think otherwise and that I wanted to figure out my own life and not have others decide that for me. They understood that point, and I told them that I would respect there beliefs as long as they respected mine. Anyway we kept on talking and talking, I asked them how everyone in the congregation was, just to be polite mainly.

    Then they started to tell me that wild rumours began to fly about me in the congregation, such as I was dealing drugs and going to brothels and blah blah blah. I just laughed and then thought "How dare they?!?!?!". My parents saw the stupidity in these accusations, and they saw how some brothers and sisters that I have known all my life were spreading them. They told me that while this was going on, some of the brothers have even stopped associating with them, and now nobody in the congregation invites them out to a get together. I told I was sorry that these things were happening to them, but I couldn't stop it either. Thats something my parents will eventually figure out on their own.

    Anyway at the end we sat down and started to tell old stories and I'm finally getting to know my parents....really know them. Before everything had the JW angle to it. I'd say something and they would say something to educate me or make me feel guilty. It feels like at the beginning of my relationship with my family.....it's great and exciting

    Anyway thats it for now...thanx for listening

    Love Boolean

    PS The original thread is on page 1835/ Friends.

  • kgfreeperson
    kgfreeperson

    Boolean, this sounds wonderful. Maybe more for your parents even than for you--but altogether wonderful. Thanks for telling us.

  • Jessica Rabbit
    Jessica Rabbit

    I am so happy you were able to really talk things out. I am ticked about the way your parents are being treated differently by some JWs because of your personal decision to leave. The sad truth is, if they confronted any of those people about it, they would deny it.

    JR

  • little witch
    little witch

    Gosh, Boo, That is great news!!!

    I for one, am just tickled pink for you. It sounds like you have a wonderful family, and that they are keeping their priorities straight.

    Kudo's to them.

    I hope things continue to evolve in a positive way for you, thanks for sharing.

  • Billygoat
    Billygoat

    Boolean,

    Fantastic news! I'm glad you enjoyed yourself and I hope this is just the beginning.

    Andi

  • freedom96
    freedom96

    I am happy for you that they are once again communicating with you. Perhaps through all of this they will see the light and leave the organization too.

  • obiwan
    obiwan

    Good dinner, burp !

  • Maverick
    Maverick

    Great to hear! I have come to know my parents, non duds, as people since leaving the borg. The mutual respect, the insight, and shared experiences. May you find joy, and in turn be there for them. Sounds like they've outgrown the brotherhoodlums! Maverick

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