Is It Really Faithfulness - or OCD?

by metatron 1 Replies latest jw friends

  • metatron
    metatron

    The organization takes great pride in its statistics, the hours spent
    in the "ministry", meeting attendance and so on. They look at these
    things as positive evidence of faithfulness, zeal, and loyalty.

    I'm not so sure......

    Mental illness and depression among JW's is old news. They are widespread problems given scant attention by a boastful leadership
    that prefers arrogant claims about being the "happiest people
    on earth".
    Beyond the foregoing, I ask: Do JW's tend to suffer from obsessive
    compulsive disorders?
    It's common to feel that you "have to get your time in".
    or you "have to attend all the meetings". You must attend long,
    painfully boring conventions that drone on and on......
    I know Witnesses with anorexia, multiple personalities and
    and physical self-mutilation (cutting oneself)disorders - which
    certainly sound obsessive to me. I read in the Watchtower about
    people who are held up as examples - who preached that Armageddon
    was "SOON!" - ALL THEIR LIVES! - does spending your life
    preaching falsehood like that sound obsessive? If you look at
    folks in your own congregation, I'm sure you'll notice compulsive
    hand-washers, the elder who won't touch the bathroom knob without
    a napkin/hankerchief, hypochondriacs, self-diagnosed sufferers
    with illnesses doctors can't objectively confirm, people who
    underline/highlight nearly every sentence in a WT study article
    (I giggle a little when I see that!) and bizarre allergies.

    Little Johnny can't understand much at the meeting so give him
    a notebook so he can count how many times the speaker says "Jehovah"
    in his talk. (another favorite of mine - what is this supposed to
    teach the kid?)
    Sit behind the bored teenage "Barbie Doll" sisters at the assembly-
    watch them write their name in filigree/calligraphy - over and
    over.....

    I could go on and on... (and what would that say ABOUT MY MENTAL
    HEALTH AFTER BEING A JW FOR 35 YEARS - mea culpa!)

    metatron (if I forgot my mantra, does that mean I'm cured, doctor?)

  • waiting
    waiting

    mey metatron,

    Do JW's tend to suffer from obsessive compulsive disorders?

    I don't know if technically "yes" - but surely from day to day average - yes, many do. And, as you brought out, many parents unwittingly encourage such behavior.

    The sins of the father will be passed to the son (paraphrased).

    Even the knowing of scriptures - how fast we can turn to the page?
    How many minutes do we get there before the meeting?
    How many minutes do we stay after the meeting.
    How many inches below/above the knee are skirts?
    Does men's hair touch their collar?
    Are the clothes proper tone?
    Is our car the right model - 4 doors?
    Is our car clean enough?
    Is our house clean enough?
    Is our garden pretty enough?
    Is our garden too pretty?
    Do we know the current jw lingo?
    Is our jewelry jw acceptable?

    The list is endless, and I would think naturally lend itself to OCD - obsessiveness to a great degree. I think that's why some of us still come to the web relentlessly - still dealing with obsessive behavior.

    But some of us have OCD before becoming jw's. Then it's just refined and played upon by the org. When I was in therepy for incest, my therapist pointed out to me that I had signs of OCD. I said, "I do not." She said, "Oh, yes you do." We continued this not/do, for a couple of more rounds, then I told her to "fu*k off." We had a good relationship - but she made her point.

    waiting

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