Our new life.

by The Rebel 6 Replies latest jw friends

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  The Rebel

  Our life's are important, and maybe for many this board represents a first in a very important step to beginning a new life? What is that new life? It should be a life where we fulfill our wishes, not an organizations wishes, not our parents wishes and not our friends wishes. But our wishes. Maybe for many our wish is still a mystery, but finding that wish, is the highest form of achievement we can give our life. For many particularly the young, this may require rebelling against our parents, not an easy thing to do particularly if we love our parents and they love us.

  When we we are at the early stages of our "new life" the days seem short and dark, but the days will slowly get longer and brighter once we find what we really wish to do with our life's. Maybe that should be our first step in our plans to leave the Watchtower.

  So do not leave the Watchtower if you only have a poor quality of life outside the organization, remain with dignity, don't be intimidated by their authorative voice, and plan a future where you are fulfilling your own wishes. Remember our life is for our enjoyment, and it should never be given to a heartless organizations, nor even well wishing parents. HOWEVER, neither hould our rebellion from the Watchtower leave us friendless and alone.

  I wish everyone good luck in connecting with themselves, and successfully finding their new life.
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  Fairlane

  Not so much 'new life' but more, a different outlook. A life outside of the org' can surely only be assessed once you leave the jws and live it, if you remain under pretence by what means can you asses your life outside to me its a contradictory position. I would recommend anyone to leave with head held high and a determination to fulfill the rest of their life as best they can. Unfortunately leaving the jws can and probably will bring difficulties but the sooner they're faced the better imo its futile to stay in a pretence,that can bring more misery and emotional trauma.
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  The Rebel

  Maybe Fairlane, their is no blanket right or wrong way to leave, yet anyway we leave is the right way.

  Elton John, ( Funneral for a friend / Love lies bleeding)

  The roses in the window box

  Have tilted to one side

  Everything about this house

  Is gonna grow old and die.

  Oh it doesn't seem a year ago to this day

  You said I'm sorry honey

  If I dont change the pace

  I can't face another day

  I wonder if those changes

  Have left a scar on you

  Like all the burning hoops of fire

  That you and I passed through.

  ...............................................

  Personally my leaving was much easier by attending Watford f.c, matches and having a community of 20,000 to connect with. I also enjoyed my on-line Chess community, because it gave me moves to think about during the day, before I revisited the game made my move and got checkmated.
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  The Rebel

  I think my point is, we need the mental strength to leave. And if we leave and still feel we have accountability to people, and we have nothing in our life's to occupy our time then when we leave, we leave with a mental weakness, which can be hard to handle.

  Leave without turning back, but don't leave and end up depressed and alone. It is my observation on this forum, many leave and still do their brain in asking questions about God. If you leave and 90% of your mind is always thinking about challenging people on God stuff, is this healthy? Life in my opinion is more fun and easier to deal with, when we can stop thinking about questions we never find an answer to.

  Life can be top quality, my son has given me so much happiness and a merry Christmas to everyone on the board.
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  scratchme1010

  So do not leave the Watchtower if you only have a poor quality of life outside the organization, remain with dignity, don't be intimidated by their authorative voice, and plan a future where you are fulfilling your own wishes. Remember our life is for our enjoyment, and it should never be given to a heartless organizations, nor even well wishing parents. HOWEVER, neither hould our rebellion from the Watchtower leave us friendless and alone.
  

  Thank you for sharing. I'd say that there's no specific formula and that all suggested actions should remain as suggested. There's no cookie cutter way of leaving as there are many different factors that each person has to consider in their particular situation.

  Once again, I'd like to add to consider the one and most important thing, and the one and most thing that tends to be neglected to be mentioned: your feelings.

  If a person plans to leave, I'd strongly suggest to first take a look at what is that the WT gives the that makes them feel comfortable and makes them stay up to this point. There are reasons why people join and they have nothing to do with learning anything, but with something that gives them comfort. People should take a look at what is that the WT has that gives them that comfort. Then is where (IMO) they can start understanding their reasons and their thought process around their decision of joining, and then they can start looking for healthy alternatives to fulfill whatever the WT does for them.

  The part that I quoted from you is very important, especially what you mention about your rebellion. To me the most damage occurs in people being convinced of all the nonsense that the WT tell people about the world outside and about what their lives are supposed to become if they leave. That's the most manipulative thing, the fear that the WT instill in people about the world and their lives without them.

  People don't need to buy into their black and white mentality. Being outside doesn't mean that you become immoral, nor that you are supposed to become anything that they say people become.
  
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  The Rebel

  Thanks scratch for your post and quoting me. However I would like it noted when I wrote:-

  " Do not leave the Watchtower if you only have a poor quality of life outside the organization, remain with dignity, don't be intimidated by their authorative voice.....etc" that the message of my full post was to leave the W.T, but only when you are emotionally strong enough to handle it.

  Thanks for your post, appreciated, as you made some great points.
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  LoveUniHateExams

  Yes I agree, The Rebel.

  This forum is for many the first step of leaving the WT and/or a ready-made 'family' of people in a similar situation that can give them much-needed support plus a chance to vent.

  Also a big thanks to Simon and this forum's moderators for the good work they do.

  I sometimes take that for granted.
  

  All the best for your 'new life', The Rebel.