I had previously posted about my JW parents making my sister miserable over marrying a Catholic...Well, the wedding was on the 27th. My sister and her fiancee (now husband) went out of their way to make my MS stepfather and pioneer mother happy. He gave up a Catholic wedding, they gave up a church wedding, they wrote their own vows and worked it to where the man performing the ceremony didn't do the prayer but my sisters husband did (so that he could pray "through" Jesus). Well, all of that was not enough for my parents-her father didn't walk her down the aisle, my brother did (although that was touch and go for a while, too, as he wants to please my parents).
When the man asked, "who gives this woman?", which was supposed to be excluded, my brother said, "Her family and I do" and there was a really awkward silence for a moment. After the ceremony, my stepfather danced the father-daughter dance with my sister and then left. He even missed her pre-wedding party the night before, because he had a meeting with the CO that couldn't be cancelled. His daughter's WEDDING PARTY!! I was so mad and sad for her, but I kept an upbeat attitude for her and I am so thrilled that she has married into a very close-knit family, who will accept her no matter what..
Oh, another thing I found to be infuriating was the attitude that they have towards homosexuals. My mother won't say the words, "that sucks" or "pissed off" because it's vulgar, but upon finding out that one of my sister's sister in laws is gay, she had no problem saying, "so which one was the dyke?" in this hateful voice. Later (many drinks later for me), after my mom basically accused one of the members of my sisters new family of being a child molester-without knowing the man AT ALL-we really got into it, and my mother seemed to feel that it was because I had been drinking, thus giving her fuel for her thoughts on my sad lifestyle. I was just so freakin' mad-her husband kissed me when I was 4 years old-really kissed me, and when I told my mom that when I was 14, she basically said his family was just inappropriate like that and.... Here is this man, this really nice man, who happens to have a close relationship with his three year old goddaughter, and he is a molester...I stormed off and smoked a cigarette, and thanked God she didn't follow me because I was about to show her some drunk hysteria for real....
Thankfully, I won't have to deal with then for another couple of years!