But Did You Die?
by Watchtower-Free 5 Replies latest social humour
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Simon
Funny, but it makes a good point.
JWs are brought up believing they are the ultimate victims and targets and also focus on themselves.
Little wonder some of the ones who leave think they personally have had the worst life experience and most injustice anyone on the planet has ever had to endure (the overwhelming majority *haven't*).
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talesin
In ancient cultures, and some today, banishment was considered worse than death. I guess it depends on your emotional strength (most born-ins are not raised to have healthy thinking patterns, etc.), so for many the banishment is very real and painful.
If you are one of the 'special' ones who also grew up in a physically and sexually abusive home, isolated from teachers, other children, etc., the injustice does feel 'great'.
In spite of that, healing is possible. A victim mentality never did anyone any good. Work towards good mental health, learn to love yourself and others, and you will realize that life is not a bowl of cherries, and everyone has pain, whether physical or psychic.
I'm pretty much over it, except when health issues get severe and one is 'all alone', it does get very rough and that's when the feelings of depression really kick in.
Everyone's journey is different. Some people may wish they *had* been killed. We all handle life's ups and downs in our own way - harder, and a bit scary at times, no matter how long it's been or how old you are, when there is no family to 'be there' for you..
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Finkelstein
I don't think its was the actual experiences that hurt being a JWS , it was more of the social circumstances of leaving a highly controlling cult, which for some involved breaking a part from their own families who didn't leave.
Thousands of marriages broke up and many more families.
Less not forget the indirect culpable suicides and thousands people dyeing for not taking a blood transfusion.
I also think what further puts people into a state of frustrating anger is the realization that all that you endured was for nothing , that it was inherently about some disingenuous men playing their version of god onto the general public, self empowering themselves for their own driven personal wants and desires.
That this religious publishing house exploited people's fear, ignorance and insecurities as a forwarding means to proliferate its published literature.
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Watchtower-Free
I have seen a JW try to defend the cult by saying this to an abuse victim -
talesin
W-F - I heard that said and just told that ignorant person that if they care to educate themselves, CSA is called, by the experts "soul murder". It usually causes some consternation in the JW or other person that is trying to minimize the real effects of child sexual abuse.