Almost Hooked

Yawritergrl

Back at the end of last year my now ex got what he thought was a printed form letter from a woman at a KH down the street from us. I insisted it was handwritten. A few days go by and I decided to write this woman back. She then wrote me a three page handwritten reply. A month or so goes by and we meet for coffee to talk. That bloomed into 4 months of meeting weekly and studying. I soaked it all up. Of course her friends thought I was a JW bc of my Bible knowledge, but I'm a PK. Anyways recently came out gay and got divorced, so I ended my studies. She was such a consistent friend and I never felt belittled and was challenged to explain why I believe what I believe. I miss the fellowship and study. Help.

Sabin

Hello Yawritergrl, it is very nice to meet you. JW are not in the main bad people & I dare say this woman would have continued to be your friend all the time you made progress in your studies with her. Lucky for you, you didn't get dunked & then come out gay as you would have been kicked out & shunned by the very person who spent all this time having cosy chats with you over coffee. You will have to make new friends my dear that's all there is to it. I know this comes as a big blow but JW while truly believing that they have others best interest at heart do not do the whole friendship thing. It is a dog eat dog religion & you don't always realise this until your the one they are taking a bite out of. There are lots of wonderful people in the world who will love you just the way you are.

goingthruthemotions

Yawritergrl....i'll bet you money that she too was gay. i am sure that you had the same feeling like i said. you should have tried to hit on her and see what her response would be.

go for it.

The Searcher

Welcome!

Best advice - move on, and avoid cults.

LisaRose

Her "friendship" was conditional on you continuing to study with her and progress in the religion. She would eventually have dumped you as a friend if you did not progress to meeting attendance and baptism, and you could never get baptized as a practicing gay person. It's hard to lose someone you are friends with, but it's probably best for you to move on.

ToesUp

Sorry to be so blunt but why is she not coming around anymore? A true friend would stick with you whether you were studying with her or not. A true friend loves you, no matter what. LisaRose is spot on. The love is conditional. This is a sad fact. She truly was not your friend. Try and reach out to others that will love you, no matter who you are. They are difficult to find but they are out there. Hugs to you!