Hurt, Anger, Then Relief?

by Big Jim 3 Replies latest jw friends

  • Big Jim
    Big Jim

    At first you feel a little hurt when you discover you have been misled into believing and getting involved in a cult.
    Then you get mad about it for a little while, but ultimately given time you will experience a great relief that you are no longer a slave to a man made organization.

    (some quotes on hurt and anger)

    Anger is the most impotent of passions. It effects nothing it goes about, and hurts the one who is possessed by it more than the one against whom it is directed.

    Do not suppress it-that would hurt you inside. Do not express it-this would not only hurt you inside, it would cause ripples in your surroundings. What you do is transform it.

    A stiff apology is a second insult. The injured party does not want to be compensated because he has been wronged; he wants to be healed because he has been hurt.

    We are injured and hurt emotionally, Not so much by other people or what they say and don't say, But by our own attitude and our own response.

    Anger, if not restrained, is frequently more hurtful to us than the injury that provokes it.

    Don't hold to anger, hurt or pain. They steal your energy and keep you from love.

  • Yerusalyim
    Yerusalyim

    "ANGER IS JUST ONE LETTER AWAY FROM DANGER!

    Not that that's apprapo, I'm just on a roll sense the Bumper Sticker post.

    YERUSALYIM
    There are more things in heaven and earth, Horatio, Than are dreamt of in your philosophy.
    Shakespere: Hamlet

  • LDH
    LDH

    Thanks for that thought provoking post.

    Incredibly, it took me a long time to accept that NO ONE was going to apologise for ANYTHING--but what a lesson that was in raising a child!

    When you are wrong, say so--it does help the other person to know that you acknowledge their hurt.

    Even (or especially children)

  • Jang
    Jang

    Well put BigJim.

    What you said is so true and relevant ......

    Do not suppress it-that would hurt you inside. Do not express it-this would not only hurt you inside, it would cause
    ripples in your surroundings. What you do is transform it.

    It took me a long time to learn to do this. I was a very angry young person because of the life I had led and it went through into my adult life. When we began our first support group here, someone commented on it and esplained how I could transform that anger into something positive. Now when I get angry at the abuse I see people go through in these organizations it gives me the strength and compassion to hold out my hand and if they want to, they can take it and we can both move on from there.

    JanG

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