Taken from Wayne Dyers latest book, "There's a Spiritual Solution to Every Problem". I thought some here would liek to read what he had to say:
An Eight-Point Plan of Decontamination
People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. Forgiveness in your heart is like a cleansing agent for your energy field. When you notice the low energy conduct of others, rather than allowing it to impact and infect your immediate surroundings, send them a silent blessing and refuse to be seduced into joining them in their low energy. When you forgive them you choose to not be impacted in a negative manner. If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives. Be kind anyway, Your field of energy is protected from contamination by kindness. Once you are independent of the accusations of others, you are unable to be angry and hurt over what others accuse you of. Be kind because it is you, not because of the reactions you want from others. Kindness that comes from your heart will suffice to keep you from being dragged down into an energy field infected by false accusations. If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies. Succeed anyway. The world is filled with people who are looking for occasions to be offended. Your success at anything is enough to trigger such a reaction in others. Keep your energy field pristine by focusing on what you know to be your divine purpose, and by doing so, the universe will support and sustain you with what is labeled success. Others will be offended, but if you persist in ignoring their reactions, you will not allow the presence of false friends or true enemies to be a factor in your life. If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you. Be honest and frank anyway, Your energy field will remain uncontaminated as long as you know that you are being honest and frank. This may attract others at the lower energies of dishonesty and cheating to try to take advantage of you. But you will not become their victim because you will have the sense of inner peace that characterizes higher and faster spiritual energy. Those who attempt to cheat you will respect and honor your position when you stay true to your spiritual values. Behave toward others from your highest self and you will eventually be free of the fear of being cheated. Ironically, when that fear disappears, the problem of being cheated also disappears. What you spend years building, someone may destroy overnight. Build any way. Do not build anything only for the purpose of having it completed. Build because it is your way of expressing your purpose. When you eat a banana the goal is not to finish it, but to enjoy each bite while nourishing yourself. Building something is a means of expressing yourself. If someone took all the books I've published and destroyed them, I would continue to write. If every tape recording of my lectures was destroyed, I would continue to speak. Everything in the material world that is built will ultimately be destroyed. Build not in fear of having it destroyed, but because you are giving expression to the infinite spirit within. If you find serenity and happiness, people may be jealous. Be happy anyway. I always remind myself that there is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way. If you seek the reactions of others as the basis of your way of being then you have turned the source of your happiness over to those whose reactions you covet. Happiness is an inside job. You don't get it from anyone or anything; you bring it to everyone and every event of your life. Keep your energy field free of contamination by remembering that you are the source of the cleansing. Others may be jealous, find fault with you, and say terrible things about you, but you are free to choose happiness for yourself anyway. The by-product of your response is that you gradually impact their jealous and mean-spirited energy fields with your radiating happiness. The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow. Do good anyway. Like being happy, doing good is something that you do as an expression of your invisible spiritual essence. Stop looking for the approval and gratitude of others as your reason to do good. Even if no one ever says thank you, do for others as your heart dictates from spirit, which is rooted in the faster energy of love, kindness, and connectedness to all. Your spirit urges you to express heart energy. Ego, rooted in the material world, urges you to do what you do so that you will be remembered and rewarded as if life were a contest. Listen to your spirit. Remind yourself to give love and do good because that is who you are, and for no other reasons. Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough. Give the world the best you've got anyway. "The best," as used above, implies your highest, most sacred self. This is the fastest vibrational energy and the source of all problem resolution. Others may attempt to contaminate your energy field by demanding more of you, or by criticizing you repeatedly, or even by ignoring your efforts. When you return to your highest self, you are independent of those opinions almost instantly, and problems of feeling unappreciated are nonexistent. Give the world your spirit, and detach from the outcome of your efforts, and your energy field becomes less and less contaminated.
These eight suggestions that Mother Teresa adopted as a plan for life concludes with the truly profound essence of this offering. "You see, in the final analysis, it is all between you and God; / it was never between you and them anyway."
Recently I approached a traffic light where a man stood in shabby clothes with a three-legged dog by his side. As I waited for the light to change I looked at this scene with compassion and felt an urge to contribute something. The sign he was carrying indicated that he was homeless. The people in my car commented that he was a strong young man, there were plenty of employment opportunities, and why should anyone give to people who are capable of working. They indicated a kind of mild contempt for this man soliciting funds when he "should" be working like they worked every day. My thoughts were on him and the fact that he cared for and fed this crippled dog. I rolled down the window and gave him several dollars =or which he expressed enormous gratitude.
As this was not between me and my friends in the car, nor was it between me and that homeless man. It was between me and God. And something inside of me urged me to extend love and a little cash as well. The next time you see anyone asking for money, remind yourself of this, and if you honestly feel that you don't want to give, then by all means don't, but rather than being critical, angry, or even mildly upset, instead offer that person a silent blessing and drive on with your energy field uncontaminated by those lower vibrations.
Before we turn to the third field of energy, I'll close this section with a last look at these points. This is a valuable guide to preventing the lower energies of others in your immediate surroundings to impact your energy field in an impure way.
THE FINAL ANALYSIS
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self-centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
Succeed anyway.
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone may destroy overnight;
Build anyway.
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you've got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is all between you and God; It was never between you and them anyway.
-"The Final Analysis" is a version of the "Paradoxical Commandments" by Kent M. Keith