carla, you are exactly right. I have heard over the years stuff like:
1. Jehovah judges us based on our
* intent
* conscience
* sincerity
* motive
Never even a hint that God judges us based on the ten commandments.
Your statement about failed prophecies is spot on as well too. One prominent JW flat out told me that 1975 the failed prediction showed alertness (motive) even if they got it wrong. Why it never occurred to him (or me at that time) that the OT punishment for speaking in the name of God with a false prophecy was death, is quite odd looking back.
Oh well, at least he was sincere, sincerely wrong.