Has anyone here ever tried to tread lightly until a certain date just so you won't screw up someone else's event by getting disfellowshipped or speaking your mind and getting shunned?
I'm just wondering because my brother is planning on marrying a witness girl next spring. The date is set and he's asked me to be best man. I don't particularly agree with him getting married the same month he turns 18 to the first girl he ever talked to, but I doubt that will stop him from doing it.
My wife and I aren't disfellowshipped, although we both have been in the past. I've been df'd twice, but we both were reinstated a few years ago so we could get back in good graces with our families. We haven't attended a meeting in 1 1/2 years now. We are shunned by most witnesses, and my brother's fiance shuns us to. She doesn't talk to us unless she has to and just gives us dirty looks most of the time.
I just have to make sure not to speak my mind to any witnesses for another 1/2 a year so I can keep my best man spot and not screw up his wedding by getting df'd or da'ing myself. I just worry that she'll convince him to shun us after the marriage. She doesn't have a hard time pulling his strings and she's a strong witness with a family full of elders and pioneers generations deep, whereas my mother and my brother are the only JW's in my family.
Imagine a big witness wedding. three hundred witnesses attending, most of them being people that I grew up with. And there I am, standing by my brother as best man, shaved bald head and a goatee. The officiating elder was in my judicial commitee twice and basically any elder in a 4 congregation radius has been in a judicial commitee with me at one time or another being the fact I met with 2 sets of elders both times because I filed appeals both times. The reason for my punishment was well known back then, and i'm not liked by that congregation because they think that I was the factor that caused some young ones to reconsider their faith and leave JW land back then.
Anyway, it should be fun to be one of the main focal points to a group of people that try their hardest to avoid me when they see me in public. I wonder if my brother has thought about this.