In my time as an Elder I attended many Elders Schools etc and we were often instructed to use the carrot, not the stick. Use commendation and encouragement as opposed to pressuring or guilting the brothers into field service etc.
It seems in that approach we were not imitating Jehovah. Read Deuteronomy chapter 28: Carrot - first 13 verses. Stick - the remaining 55 verses! Seems Jehovah takes far more pleasure in using the stick. And what a horrible stick he uses!!! No quick painless death for His servants. NO, he really wanted them to suffer first.... Now tell me again, why we said the concept of Hell did not fit God's personality?