My husband embarrassed me this weekend....

by LDH 8 Replies latest jw friends

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  LDH

  ....without even knowing it.

  We went to a wedding Saturday night and sat next to a close friend who is dating the mother of the groom.

  He is white, and the groom's mom is half Filipina/half Mexican. He was telling my hubby and me how in love with her he is, but he was worried about overcoming 'cultural' differences.

  Then my hubby tells him it's no big deal we also had to overcome BIG cultural differences. (I think he's gonna say how he grew up poor in the South Bronx, I was traveling the world or how he was a college basketball star, I never finished college, or how he's Black, I'm 1/4 Black and never made any effort to identify with 'Black Churches' or "NAACP" or something.....)

  But NOOOOOO this arshole I married (tongue in cheek, I love him) starts talking about how I was raised JW and the whole table is like "WIERD MAN."

  "NO WAY!!!! I would have never guessed it!" (Which is the whole friggin point)

  Now it takes a LOT to make Lisa speechless, but I was for a minute. Then I said, "Well yes you're right they're wierd, but it was the late 60's and there weren't too many mainstream religions looking to accept interracial marriges, you know. My dad was raised Southern baptist, my mom Methodist. C'Mon people cut me some slack."

  Jerry had no idea he was embarrasing me, he wouldn't have ever done that if he thought he was. I will just have to tell him, "Look arsehole if you don't want me laughing about your clam digger pants and hand me down sneakers with cardboard in em, don't be laughing about something I had no choice in either."

  LOL, thought you guys would enjoy this one.
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  LDH

  Oh yeah he was also kind enough to mention how my daughter (5 at the time we met) was already 'indoctrinated with that bullshit.'

  True, but embarrasing.
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  Kent

  LOL! You should have said you were planning on returning - and maybe seek for a "priviledge" in Crooklyn :)

  Yakki Da

  Kent
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  bigboi

  Hey LDH:

  Awwww go easy on the man. None of that stuff you mentioned can cause anywhere near the division between you two as the Tower could. I say this because he's got to be openminded to marry a person as socially different from himself as you are or were. Really sometimes it can be easier for ppl to put up with social differences than religious differences. Hey the fact that you're a goddess prolly didn't hurt either. Also remember the fact that we're male. Can't master the think before you speak thing. Damn!!!!

  "it ain't what ya do. it's how you do it" quote from the song "True Honeybunz" by Bahamadia
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  RedhorseWoman

  Opportunity knocked....and you were embarrassed! You should have worn your "I am a cult survivor" t-shirt. LOL
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  VeniceIT

  We saw this T-shirt a few seeks ago that Said,

  "I see
  dumb
  people!!"

  We about died laughing, that's be fun to tour Bethel in don't ya think!!!

  or take your pic from one of these http://members.aol.com/JWsign/jwts.html

  Ven
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  Seeker

  Venice, I saw a similar thing on a poster at work. It shows the boy talking to Bruce Willis and saying something like:

  "I see dumb people,
  they're everywhere all around,
  and they don't even know they are dumb.

  And they all work here."
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  CPiolo

  LDW:

  Like your husband, I too am married to a woman raised as a JW (who since we've married has return to the organization). As well she is from another culture -- Latin American, her native tongue is different than mine -- Spanish, is of different ancestry and racial background (although you would never know it and she would be hard pressed to admit it); she has some indigenous South American blood.

  When we were telling others we planned to be married, they all warned us of the difficulties we would face because of our cultural differences. That lifestyle and attitude in the U.S. was so different than that of Latin America. That things would be difficult because of this, and that we should be prepared for the difficulties ahead and be patient with each other. All in all, pretty good advice.

  While their advice was good, and we've had some difficulties due to the previously mentioned issues, the single most disruptive thing in our marriage and relationship has been my wife's involvement with Jehovah's Witnesses. Their way of thinking, their intolerance, dogmatism, phobias, fears, isolationism, distrust of anything outside the organization, blind loyalty to the organization and anything published by the Watchtower, self-rightious superiority, and all the encumbent problems (rational, pyschological and emotional) that accompany these have caused us more problems than any other differences we might have -- culture, language, ethnicity, gender, etc. It so so alien to my way of thinking and who I am, far more so than her nationality, culture, or whatever other differences we may have. It can be extremely trying to find some common ground in which to meet.

  So while your husband may have hurt your feelings or embarrassed you, he might well have been right on the mark as well. Being in a similar situation, I can certainly relate to what he said, although it probably would have been better said in private between just the two of you. There's no need to air one's dirty laundry in public or to cause someone you love undue embarrassment or pain.

  Peace and blessings,

  CPiolo
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  LDH

  CPiolo,

  I appreciate your remarks. Like I said, that's not my husband's style--he would have never said that if he thought I would have been embarrassed by it.

  He just mentioned it more as a testament to our love for each other than anything. Having not been raised in 'the truth' he has no idea about the level of embarrassment over something someone like myself had no say in.

  Bigboi Kent and Venice you are too funny. You guys got it. RHW I got caught off guard, something that doesn't happen to me very often. I guess I wasn't thinking of it from his perspective, LOL.